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AnswerIn my experience women generally show signs that they are unhappy before they change their minds, so it's not really that quickly, or any more quickly than anyone else.

Women are usually more in tune with their intuition as well so that is why they stick to their decisions. Personally I like to stay friends because obviously it's easier than not having that person around ever again- there was things that made it fun to hang out etc.

Guys hurt more after the breakup because they usually a) take the woman for granted and don't realize how awesome she was until she's gone and b) are taken by surprise. There's a saying, the relationship is over once the woman withdraws. I think this is very true and applies in your case as it would cause her to make a seemingly quick decision and not change her mind after the fact.


What can I say, but women are just full of those lovely little hormones that not only drive them crazy, but those around them. Who said guys hurt more than women? Depends on who is breaking up with who. Most women don't want to be friends with an ex boyfriend and I don't understand why this is mentioned so much on this board. The only reasons I can think of for "being friends" is the girl feels builty for breaking up and doesn't want to hurt him any further or she wants to keep all her options open (if the relationship she's involved in at the present time doesn't work out she can always go back to her ex). It's healthier to just break it off.

As much as it has hurt you please get out there with your friends and start having some fun. Did you know there are way more women in this world than men! You are literally a kid in a candy store. Take your time and you'll find the right person for you.

Good luck Marcy

Answersometimes girls change their feelings because they relize that they made their choice to quickly and they really need time to think about it. You can change their mind it is how hard you try that determains the ourcome. You don't want it to be to hard because then they will think you are stupidly dessperate. guys usually have more to lose in the relationship that is why it hurts more not that girls don't get hurt a lot to and some times they do get hurt more than guys it just depends on the circumstances and us girls don't let on that we are hurt usually we eat or way out of depression and girls want to be friends with the guys after wards because they had a good thing going when you were just friends with them AnswerAs a woman, I have NEVER understood why people want o be friends after breakup. I do not have any ex boyfriends/husband as a friend. I mean its still really. Its like having a wound that heals then telling yourself you will pick at it a little more. The last idiot wanted to be friends. I told him I do not need male friends as a mature woman. I think the no contact and good ridance is the best thing. We women also get set on decisions as you mentioned, especially if we have been treated bad. Once I dump a man and if hes treated me like dirt, I do not ever go back and usually they are in shock. I think they had some twisted illusion that I would put up with crap forever. Maybe they thought I was trained. Who knows. But all I know is I never go back for more. I move forward and forgive and let it go. AnswerThat's not true: both parties get hurt when feelings are involved and break up happens. Otherwise its one sided.In another words, one person likes the other person more and this goes for both sexes. However not all girls change their feelings so quickly if they do then that's what they felt in the first place or they are confused about wanting a relationship or the feelings they have for this person. Again this goes for both sexes..Same thing for not changing mind..It all depends on the feelings and the situation.. AnswerThose are all good, insightful questions. But eons of guys have come to a clear understanding...trying to answer them is pointless...your really better off trying to figure out how to make peace on earth, or the universe perfect. It's easier.

They're girls...they do what they do because of that...and that's all we guys can ever hope to understand of it. Lord have mercy on us all.

I think that the girl is really confused and doesnt have enought time to think and just goes along with what she feels like at the moment then when its done she thinks about it and maybe regrets it, We change our mind very quickly and go off things quickly if they don't entertain us enought, Also sometimes we say can we just be friends to break up in a nice way so we don't hurt there feelings to much or because we don't have a reason why we have broken up....

Actually to Marcy above(the very first response): I have to correct you on something you said. There are actually more males, not females in this world. More baby boys are born than girls(they are the faster swimmers/sperms, they are also more likely to die younger as in infancy or childhood and they typically die before women later in life so I guess it's kind of like God's way of making sure there are enough males in the world by outnumbering the females.), so it's actually the girls that have their pick of the litter. This is why men have to compete for the affections of the females. To the OP here: As far as this situation goes, it's no fun I know(I am a female btw.). It happens to all of us(males and females.). Women get dumped too, the ones they crush on start liking someone else after awhile(it's happened to me plenty of times. Part of it was always my fault though b/c I never made any moves out of fear or nervousness.). I've been heartbroken too in the past and once the guy I liked decided he didn't like me anymore, there wasn't much I could do to change his mind-He always moved on. It hurt like heck at the time, but I guess that's a part life. Keep your chin up though, there are plenty of other girls out there, you just have to wait and be patient. In the meantime, enjoy your freedom and your youth(it's short!), maybe try dating other girls. You never know, the new girl you meet may make the former girl pale in comparison. Don't be discouraged, the right one will come along. Honestly, if the current one you love doesn't feel the same way, then it's one-sided and she can't possibly be the right girl for you(the right girl would feel the same way). And you certainly deserve more than a one-sided love!

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Q: Why do girls change their feelings so quickly and once their minds are made up you can never change it why do guys always hurt more after the breakup and why do girls always want to be friends?
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