Why do married men lie when they're caught trying to cheat?

Most woman already know when their spouse is cheating and lies just make it harder to work things out, truth is the first step to making your marriage work, it will hurt but deceit and lies will sooner or later end the marriage, she needs to be told, she deserves to be told, if you love her trust her to talk it out , if not you will lose her. you need to have the guts to admit you was wrong. If he continues to lie, maybe the affair is not over or he is planning on having another. If he loves you he need to confess, if he does not really love you he will keep the lie going. Why put her through this, it is wrong, Most times all she wants to hear you say is that you love her and you are sorry for what you did.

Cheating is lying! Why wouldn't a liar lie? Cheaters and liars do not accept responsibility, so they don't want any accountability.

I agree. Men who cheat are liars. They have to be to keep up both relationships. Why wouldn't they lie. They will say 'she means nothing to me' or 'she's lying to me', all the while telling the other woman that they love her and want to be with her, sometimes not even letting on that they are in another relationship to begin with. So I agree with the above poster, a liar is...well, a liar.


Men lie about affairs because they don't want to face the consequences of their actions if the truth is discovered. These are the reasons I've heard from male friends in this situation:

1. Don't want to get divorced, lose their kids, lose their home and money, lose reputation, lose position in community, lose respect of family or friends, lose respect at work, etc. Most of the time he is not emotionally involved enough with the other woman to lose these aspects of his life over her. Those who are Chronic cheaters usually have brief flings or one night stands and the other women mean nothing to them at all.

2. He believes he really loves his wife and wants to stay married to her. He thinks he will eventually grow out of the cheating or that the marriage will get better. This is the kind of man who justifies his actions by saying that his wife never wants to have sex anymore, she's gained weight, she doesn't take care of herself, etc. He will blame the wife for making him cheat, thereby giving himself an excuse to lie about it.

3. He honestly regrets the cheating and would never do it again, so he doesn't see any need to confess since he has already "solved" the problem. Sometimes they really have learned their lesson, but most of the time it happens again eventually and he tells himself the same thing the next time.

Unless it really is a one time thing, cheating men and women will almost always get caught eventually and have to face the consequences. But as long as they are getting away with lying, most people will continue to lie. If you suspect you are being cheated on and being lied to about it, trust your instincts and go the extra mile to prove yourself right or wrong. Or, get out of the relationship and move on to someone who you can trust.

Men normally lie because they don't want to hurt you but what they don't know is that they just hurt us all the more also they don't want to take responsibility for what they did.

They panic and don't want to admit it.

*** The lie when they are caught cheating for many reasons. 1. They feel guilt. 2. To place blame. 3. Fear of failure. 4. They are in denial. These are just a few examples. Cheating and infidelity are self serving acts that have nothing to do with the betrayed spouse. It is in fact, a selfish, self serving act, with little to no thought of the betrayed wife/husband. *****