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Why do people date more than one person at a time?

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May 06, 2007 8:33PM

When younger I dated several men at a time (no sex included) and we had a lot of fun. Men and women can have a great time together without sex involved. Sometimes you meet someone and you know you really are attracted to them, while other people you meet it may take time to realize their good qualities, you may even become friends first and then lovers. When I had a boyfriend I dated no other men. I was head-over-heels in love with my first husband. I was young and foolish and I take the full blame for my own actions (a learning field for me.) He wasn't the right guy for me and we ended in divorce after 3 1/2 years of marriage. Not only accepting divorce (I really don't care for divorce and think people should work at their problems) and the nasty things he put me through hurt me deeply, but I didn't give up on men, so I dated many and just enjoyed myself without a sexual relationship. Yup, you heard me right. It can be done and most of these guys kept coming back for more dates so sex really isn't everything. I finally met my 2nd husband through a male friend and we took it slow and easy and sex didn't come into play until several months after dating. My attitude was "If the guy can't wait for sex for a few months and that's all he wants he can keep moving." Respect yourself, and if a person can hold out on sex for several months then you know they really care. Some people love their freedom and as long as they are honest about that aspect of themselves and make no promises to the person they are with then both go into the relationship with eyes wide open. Many men/women are either afraid of commitment or don't want to commit and that's fine just as long as they are honest with the person they are dating.