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Why do women have trouble getting over verbally abusive men?


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2010-09-06 06:17:49
2010-09-06 06:17:49

It's hard for a woman to get over a verbally abusive man because the abuse was directed at her self-esteem and self-confidence rather than her physically. People look at a woman who's been physically abused and they can obviously see the injuries caused by the abuse, but with verbal abuse it's different because no one can see that you've been continuously that you're ugly, stupid, not worth the time of day, no one will ever love you and that the abuser is all you deserve. You believe it. You end up feeling so degraded that you can hardly function because it's all you've been told by someone who says they love you. To heal from verbal abuse a woman has to first get away from the abuser which is hard, then seek counseling where she can gain her self-esteem and self-confidence back. Then she must realize what was it that made her susceptible to an abuser in the first place. It takes years for a woman who has been abused to fully heal, but more so with psychological and verbal abuse because they are directed at the woman's mind and she begins to doubt herself. Only about 1 out of 2000 women abused are abused in just one form.


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They aren't you feminist retard. Women can be abusive and so can men so get stuffed

Men, because they are stronger than a women when they are a adult. It would depend on what you mean by abusive, as women can be more abusive verbally, which could result in a man getting physical. Cases where women are physically abusive, don't tend to be reported, as it is embarrassing for a man, also many believe they wouldn't be taken seriously.

Generally a verbally abusive woman has control issues and she will carry them into most relationships. However, there are a few women that are verbally abusive to one or more men, but may meet a man that she is not verbally abusive to as they are better suited for each other.

He was verbally abusive to his daughter but there's no valid info about him being physically abusive.

That's they aren't good for a relationship and certainly not good for a child

* The best way for an abused man to move on from a verbally abusive relationship is to seek counseling. Just like women, men may have lost their self respect; feel demeaned and ashamed (they are suppose to be the stronger sex) and he needs to find out why he stayed so long in the abusive relationship. Without proper counseling just like women, men can choose another abusive partner in the future and don't have the tools to tell when rag flags go up that the person they are with is controlling at best and the worst .. verbally or even physically abusive. Men have been brought up to not hit women, so it is very often hard for the man to make sense as to why he put up with the abuse for so long. Men can be victims of abuse too and they should not blame themselves.

Males abuse or sexually abuse their children more than women, but there are a few cases where women sexually abuse their sons, but can be verbally or physically abusive by slapping, shoving towards their children.

If your friends are a good lot and not always into trouble, then you have on your hands a "control freak!" This is not good news for you and will only get worse. This is the first sign of abusive behavior in men (women can also be abusive in this manner.) Run!

If a man is abusing his girlfriend and or wife, then he will more than likely be abusive to all women. It is a mind frame, women to him = abuse. This is not true in all cases but in most of them.

A part of the reason is that Black men don't see their words as verbally abusive. Why? The taunts and teasing involved in "capping" or "playing the dozens" involves quick wit and the ability to talk about someone in a stinging way that is still humorous and makes others laugh. Men often play these word games with other men and they all seem fine with it. However, when those words are turned upon women and said with the intent to bring a woman down, put her in her place, or make her feel small and insignificant, its not funny anymore. I believe the larger reason Black men are verbally abusive is their ongoing struggle with self esteem and feelings of powerlessness. Striking out with name calling, put downs, and words which attack the core of Black women's pride in their accomplishments looks education achievements and sexuality give these verbally abusive men a sense of power. What they are doing is putting others down to build themselves up. Such behavior may provide a temporary sense of satisfaction as he watches her face crumble in shame or humiliation, but in reality he is merely demonstrating how poorly he feels about himself. Finally, I think it is important to note that verbally abusive men come in all sizes, shapes and colors and are not limited to Black men. The issue is though that most women tend to date men of their own ethnicity, and therefore Black women (who interact primarily with Black men) are more likely to be verbally, physically or psychologically abused by a Black man moreso than any other race of man.

This is a generalisation, and a highly incorrect one at that. Women can be, are just as abusive and insecure as men. Many men are not abusive and are quite secure with themselves - the opposite is in fact a minority.

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according to surveys and newspapers approximatly an average of 72 women die from abusive relationships and rape.

Some women (like men) can be abusive to ANYONE - including other women.

No, but some may target insecure women.

See links for resources for battered and abused women.

Woman always try to give excuses in order to stay in an abusive relationship. If your in an abusive relationship then get out of one. It does not matter if you love them if they are hitting you they don't love you. There is no reason for a woman to stay in a abusive relationship. If they are abusive then they are blinded.

No, well I had a partial hysterectomy and and I still get very lubricated, I heard a lot of women also have trouble having organism, I have not had any trouble. I wonder if a lot of women get bored with there partners, I have been with the same partner for 19 years, but still no trouble getting wet or reaching organism.

Abusive women generally follow the same patterns as abusive men, with some small differences. They may call you abusive, and attack you because of your sex. This is especially the case with feminists, and women who refer to themselves as 'empowered'. After they have suffered from abuse these women turned into abusers themselves in an attempt to prove that their previous abuser has no control over them. Of course, this only proves that their abuser still has control over them.

Because, from abolishing slavery to civil rights to votes for women, conservatives block them at every pass.

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lots and everywhere. we should help them.

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