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It's likely that people who are being abused in a relationship feel guilty for a variety of reasons, and could benefit from support to evalutate the sources of guilt and reasons for remaining in that relationship. Please know that NO ONE ever deserves to be abused and although it may seem difficult to leave an abusive relationship, your life may depend on it - and so do your children's (if applicable) if they are experiencing abuse at the hands of the abuser or by witnessing your abuse - don't underestimate just how much your children are affected by this and will surely affect them for the rest of their lives. Most professionals realize that the abuser may likely have not always been abusive and has some positive qualities to which you were initially attracted, but despite having good qualities and having good days, it is never okay for someone to abuse another person. Abuse never gets better on it's own or just goes away, in fact, it gets worse over time, like a fire that starts out small and gradually spreads to ruin an entire building, abuse is a flammable foundation. Please respect yourself enough, even if you have lost your self-respect, to get out of a situation that leads you to feeling guilty and start working to repair the damage and pain.

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Many people that have been sexually abused feel guilty for many reasons. They need to know that what happened is not their fault and they should not feel guilty or blame themselves for the actions of the abuser. It is very important that if you have been abused in the past or currently, you need to talk to someone that you trust so they can help you. For kids be sure that it is an adult, such as a parent, teacher, or counselor.A person can simply feel guilty because they blame themselves for being abused. An abuser is usually someone that is very good at manipulating people, and could easily make you think that it was your fault. Just remember that no matter how much they tell you that it is your fault, it is never your fault.Another reason why someone may feel guilty is that they love or loved the person that abused them such as a family member or a boyfriend/girlfriend. This can stop someone from seeking help because they would be turning in someone they love. Keeping the abuse a secret will only encourage the behavior to continue because there has been no attempt at stopping it, so get help.One of the most common reasons someone could feel guilty is that they experienced sexual arousal or gratification from the abuse. Your body responded the way it was designed to respond, which you could not control. This does not mean that you should feel ashamed of those natural feelings because again, you had no control to stop them.So remember that no matter what the circumstances were, it was not your fault and you should not blame yourself or feel guilty for something that someone else did.

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