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Why does a woman divorce a loving man then try to cut off all contact between him and her friends and family to go back to the abusive husband before him?

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2007-10-20 16:47:54
2007-10-20 16:47:54

maybe because of his sexual performance... I think its because she knows that to go back to an abuser she has to give away a huge part of herself, so she is giving away things related to her as she knows he will take them anyways and be angry if she doesnt. It could also be because she feels guilty for leaving her original guy, and perhaps she feels safe with him, in a way. Old habits die hard, and some people just feel like "home." She also could not be over her first husband, and perhaps she feels she deserves this treatment from him, and not the good love that she receives from her new husband. Insecurities and attatchment are big weaknesses that women have when it comes to relationships. Answer: Maybe because the loving husband, Mr. Nice Guy, was rich and she just wanted his money, so she could go back to the abusive husband, Mr. Sexy, because he's great in bed.

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