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Because love and pain become one in the same when you have been abused. You may eel as if you failed some how. You did not. Speak to God, Meditate, do some yoga if you get in touch with you, the pain will leave.

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Q: Why does leaving an abusive relationship hurt even though you're making an improvement in your life?
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