Why is it okay when a woman is making sacrifices for a man but when the man feels like he is the only one making sacrifices that is forgotten and the man becomes angry and accuses her of using him?

I think many women go through this.  I have been married to a wonderful man for 35 years, but it is true that all the sacrifices I do go unseen and unnoticed at times, although once in a blue moon he will buy me flowers or out of the blue tell me how much he appreciates my help.  Most of the time men just don't think although I am sure most men really are grateful for what their wives do for them.  I've had men talk to me about their wives and how wonderful and supportive they are and I always say, 'Why are you telling me, tell her!'  They look shocked, but all agree and they do tell their wives.  It isn't out of love that most guys don't say thank you they just never think of it. I also agree with you that often when a man does nice things for you it's at a great effort on their part to do so (the little darlings) so unless you show signs of appreciating any gesture they may make then they can get upset or angry. The bottom line is the fact that women often do more giving towards men than men give in return.  The woman becomes angry because she feels let down so without knowing it when he does do something nice for her she will not give him the same satisfaction, but let him have a taste of his own medicine.  There is really no perfect balance when it comes to getting praise for giving of oneself so unless you can give without strings, don't give at all! Women can chew gum, talk on the phone, cook a full course meal all at the same time and men can't!  LOL
I think many women go through this.  I have been married to a wonderful man for 35 years, but it is true that all the sacrifices I do go unseen and unnoticed at times, although once in a blue moon he will buy me flowers or out of the blue tell me how much he appreciates my help.  Most of the time men just don't think although I am sure most men really are grateful for what their wives do for them.  I've had men talk to me about their wives and how wonderful and supportive they are and I always say, 'Why are you telling me, tell her!'  They look shocked, but all agree and they do tell their wives.  It isn't out of love that most guys don't say thank you they just never think of it. I also agree with you that often when a man does nice things for you it's at a great effort on their part to do so (the little darlings) so unless you show signs of appreciating any gesture they may make then they can get upset or angry. The bottom line is the fact that women often do more giving towards men than men give in return.  The woman becomes angry because she feels let down so without knowing it when he does do something nice for her she will not give him the same satisfaction, but let him have a taste of his own medicine.  There is really no perfect balance when it comes to getting praise for giving of oneself so unless you can give without strings, don't give at all! Women can chew gum, talk on the phone, cook a full course meal all at the same time and men can't!  LOL