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Abusive people are all about control and he's very angry that he's lost control over you. An abuser can be kind and loving at the beginning (a trap) and once he has his victim where he wants them the abuse begins and just gets worse. Brain washing is part of their ploy and if he threatens you enough and let's you feel you are the one bothering him you may just believe him. They play a lot of mind games. If he phones you, then put him on speaker phone and tape his phone call. You can't tape a call off a cordless or cell phone (it's too weak a signal) so use that speaker phone. Keep those tapes and if he ever tries to charge you with something you have evidence. Even though tapes are not always admissable in court, the judge can and will listen to them in his chambers and believe me, that will sway his thoughts about who is telling the truth and who isn't. DON'T CONTACT HIM! Don't answer his calls or emails and stay away from the places you use to go (such as bars, cafes, etc.) You are in control over your own destiny. If you made the effort to stay away from him you wouldn't know about the restraining order. Good luck Marcy

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Q: Why would an abusive ex whom you completely avoid tell you if you contact him that he will get a restraining order then come around to you again trying to talk when he knows you're over him?
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change your number and don't give out to anyone that knows him and then avoid him at all cost if you see him around ignore and go about your normal day like he doesn't exist or ask him what is his problem and then tell him to leave you alone you don't want anything to do with him! Talk to a judge or attorney and get a restraining order. If you feel there is any threat of violence, explain that to the judge and there is little doubt that the restraining order will be awarded. After that, if he violates any part of the restraining order he can be arrested.

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