Should my parents be allowed to use my room when I'm not there i.e. in another room or out to school?

Answer 1

Bottom line: It's their house, and their rules. You might suggest politely that you don't like it, but essentially it's out of your control. It is not unreasonable for them to want to use the "unused" space, and it's up to you to convince them that it isn't really unused.

A.Your question is a very difficult one to answer, but very important also. I guess you are a teenager, right? I try to remember the time I was more or less your age and I'm going to tell you what I would accept and what I would not. Is that alright for you? I think it's legitimate for my parents to have the use of my room toaccommodate some visitors, relatives in some occasions, but if possible, not without my prior consent and explanation for why no other solution could be found, unless breaking the code of hospitality. If it would appear so, on due time, I would save all very personal matters and belongings that are so secret or personal to me before allowing the use of my room. But I would never accept anyone even my parents to access my very private life accessories like journal, letters, cellphone messages, PC mail, etc. But on the other hand I understand parents who want to protect their child and get access to all of this for safety reason. So I believe that all depends on the kind of education you received from your elders, the common trust you have established between you, but that's not enough. It's the moral and love duty of your parents to protect you against all possible odds. To do so, there are few limits, but what we call delicacy in the matter should rule for the respect of your privacy as long you are known for being a good respectable child. Don't abuse on that cause limits are really unknown. Trust and confidence are the first rules to be taught and applied, but if one of them is betrayed, then we go into teenager's and parents hell.

If I was your mother, I would request from you to keep your room clean and orderly in all times. If not, you should not blame her for her doing your job that you were supposed to do under trust. Up to you to secure your secrets all the time.