I'm not quite sure what "messing around" means but I just want to say that you should not have to change your whole lifestyle and allow one to control you just to be with them. Relationships are about give and take not just one sided and no one person is worth putting your life on hold or giving up your friends for. Remember you can always keep friends longer than you can a boy/girlfriend in the broad spectrum. Let this one go and move on to someone that will not be dictating to you or smothering you. People will only treat you the way you allow them to.