Do you write myself or Jane vs Jane or me?

Answer 1

It depends on how you are using "Jane or me".

Here are examples:

Correct: Jane or I will be going to the park.

Incorrect: Jane or me/myself will be going to the park.

Correct: Please give the book to Jane or me.

Incorrect: Please give the book to Jane or I/myself.

(I hear this incorrect usage quite often.)

Correct: I did it myself.

(Notice how only "I" can act on "myself". No one else can act on "myself"...because they are not the self.)

The rule is this:

Take the other person out of the sentence, and I/me/myself should stand on it's own.

If used as the subject, use "I".

If used as the direct object, use "me".

If reflecting back on the self, with the subject of "I", use "myself".

Answer 2

Use "Jane and I" when you are the subject of the sentence, and use "Jane and me" when you are the object. For example: "Jane and I went to the store" (subject), and "He gave the book to Jane and me" (object).