I wanted to ask the same question, but after reading yours it is a little clearer. From my experience with my narcissist partner he knows even though he pretends not to. When we do anything or go anywhere I pay. He's always broke he says but is very sorry I have to pay. When he would go pick something up for me at the store with my credit card he would stop and fill up his truck with gas and not tell me. When he bought me an engagement ring but ask could he put it on my ccard because he had no credit I was dumb enough to say yes and pretend to be happy. When payment came due he was always broke..I had to make. When I would finally tell him how it hurt my feeling to make my own engagement ring payment when he told me how broke he was and couldn't make it but same day get sterio system installed in his truck he made me feel so bad I just hung my head. He works hard for his money he says and he deserved something for himself.
What is the usage of the term "narcissist" and how does it reflect upon this situation. I do not understand. nar
It's certainly possible. A narcissist may date another narcissist that is more selfish than they are to feel better about themselves. In turn say "i'm not as selfish as he/she is so that makes me above him/her). It's incredible and shocking the way people with this disorder think. It takes a lot of research to understand a narcissist.
The main trait of a narcissist is that they see and perceive things only as they pertain to themselves. So if a commonly held truth doesn't correspond to the view of the narcissist, the narcissist will need to create a version of the truth which does.
It's difficult to prove a negative. If a narcissist finds out some of those characteristics, all he has to do is be a good actor. Not being a narcissist is the only quality one could have to prove one is not a narcissist. There is no act a person can perform or one thing a person can do that would prove once and for all that the person is not and never has been and never will be a narcissist. Yet all the same, if you are not a narcissist, other people will recognize this fact, just as if you are, that too will come to light. Empathy. Narcissist's do not posess it nor do they understand it.
"Empathic" means able and likely to understand how other people feel emotionally.
It's important to consider if you're emotionally, mentally, and financially ready for marriage at this stage. It's advisable to focus on personal growth, education, and career before committing to such a significant partnership. Take your time to explore and understand yourself and your goals before making lifelong commitments.
First you need to understand the mind of a narcissist. Psychological Narcissism is defined by overt behaviors that boost ones ego at the disparaging effects of another. If you wish to aide their psychological problem, you would compliment them and degrade yourself to their satisfaction. However, it's never wise to attempt to feed into the ego of a narcissist as you only further the progression of the illness.
The question is help them how? Refer them to counseling, but they don't want to be fixed, though you may want to fix them to be a 'normal' person so you can keep a relationship with them. If you are a lay person and in a relationship with a narcissist, you cannot help them. Just by the nature of your relationship and the pathology of a narcissist, things will get ugly, it will be at your expense and there will be no change in the narcissist. A good therapist will be the one to help a narcissist, but it takes a great deal of work on the part of the narcissist, a commitment to healing, only they don't see themselves as 'broken' or anything wrong with them, so an honest introspective communication with a therapist is rare. It's so hard to understand. Leaving them is best for you though and isn't that sad that that is also the way to help a narcissist, because they are sucking your goodness from you and using it to buoy themselves. So sad.
An emotionally abusive man (or woman) is not capable of true, pure love. The person does this to you because he or she lacks self esteem, as hard as that may seem to understand. Saying he doesn't "love" you anymore is another way for him to emotionally and mentally abuse you.
Because they are not emotionally stable to understand what a relationship is.
The question I have for you is why would you want to do this? I understand that you think that this narcissist is bad news, but your question specifies the other person involved is "willing". Perhaps you do not understand the dynamics of the relationship properly. Maybe you are meddling where you shouldn't. Take a look at your reasons for doing this before proceeding. I understand what you are asking since I used to be one of those "willing" victims who was dazzled by the narcissist's charm. Lots of people did try to warn me that I was being used, but I was too much in the thrall of the narcissist. It took 8 years and 2 divorces before I came to my senses. Sadly I don't think you yourself can save the victim of a narcissist. The victim has to save themselves. You can tell them what you know during a time when they seem willing to listen, and hope they will eventually save themselves. Most do eventually get out. It is easy to get away from a narcissist once the charm wears thin and you finally see through them. The more frequently the victims hear the truth from others, the more likely they will get out sooner. When they finally do get out, they will be a lot wiser. Personal boundaries might be a good neutral topic to discuss with the victim of a narcissist, since that is one area where a narcissist runs rampant over his victim. If the victim realized how much his/her personal boundaries are being ignored, the victim could begin to put two and two together.
To connect emotionally with women, it's important to listen actively, show empathy, and be emotionally open yourself. Communicate openly about your feelings, ask about hers, and make efforts to understand her perspective. Building trust, being supportive, and expressing care and affection are also key in fostering an emotional connection.