How can you be yourself?

Answer 1

Abraham Maslow described several levels on the way to feeling fullfilled :being oneself: also known as "self actualization". The levels are arranged one on top of the other (pyramidal/hierarchical). At the bottom of the pyramid: ie: the foundation/the basis on which all others build is "safety":. Following that several other follow including love, belongingness.....etc. It is important to note two aspects: 1- that one must not "try" or "work at" being oneself: since this carries with it the risk of false self, confusion and hasty affiliation. Take your time, breathe and be: whatever you are, welcome: layer after the other will fall until the true self is revealed. 2-One will visit each level more than once in his/her life: it is not like a milestone is completed and over with: rather: within safety there are different strata: primitive safety (food, shelter...etc), followed by intermediate safety (the ability to relinquish food for other higher levels), advanced safety (a sense that all is OK no matter what) Remember: sometimes it is necessary to not be yourself in order to be yourself: sometimes it is necessary to act, give up loved things/dreams, let go of that which you believe is true/yours/necessary. It is in doing this repeatedly, that you truly find out that which is you and that which is not. Take care and love

Answer 2

Being yourself means respecting your own decision, doing what feels natural to you and staying true to your heart. It is a first step towards realizing your personal growth.

Respect others as much as you respect yourself. Learn the good skills and habits from them but never try to imitate anyone. Each person has different priorities and experiences in life, there is no one else who wants to achieve exactly the same thing as you do. Imitation implies that you have lost your dignity, and you are not liking something about yourself.

Hence figure out what you like and dislike about yourself. The thing you like is already part of yourself. The thing you dislike about yourself is a limitations which are blocking your way to be yourself.

Some limitations like colour, height etc. can not be removed and you will have to live with them. But some limitations like a pimpy face, overweight, lack of confidence, hesitation etc. can be removed. But it is also true that you can not remove it overnight. You have to continuously work on it until it gets completely removed.