You don't.
there should be no guilt. Especially if you've asked him before to quit. He knew exactly what he was doing. You don't need anyone who might hurt you. emotionally or physically.
Instead, give yourself a pat on the back for having the courage to make the right decision.
Try finding a non-alcoholic with whom to have a new and better relationship.
It is important to set boundaries and communicate assertively with your boyfriend about the impact of his behavior. Consider seeking couples therapy or individual counseling to address the underlying issues. If the abusive behavior continues, prioritize your safety and well-being and consider seeking support from friends, family, or a support group.
i deal with not having a boyfriend by going to sleep early, and keeping my mind and self very busy.....
That depends upon the situation. For instance, guilt can be superimposed just as much as the individual can bring it upon themselves. Then again, guilt can result from a biochemical reaction in the neural processes.
Get a new boyfriend.
they have a lot of problems that they can't deal with
Your boyfriend should be the guide to show you how to "deal" with it. You should be polite and courteous. If there are jealous feelings or you feel you cannot deal with it , you know it is time to move on.
Leave Him!
Deal with it?
If your boyfriend is still helping her out wiht her bills its like they never broke up. You shouldn't let him do that...and if he doesn't stop you should really consider breaking up with him. There is no reason why you should have to deal with that.
The disease is guilt. Lady Macbeth is feeling a great deal of a guilty conscience..
reassure him that it was in the past and that you only have feelings for him. if he still gives you trouble then as hard as it may seem to deal with, you may want to consider breaking up because you cant change what was already done and if he cant accept it, that is his own insecurity, definitely not yours! =)
Deal with it and move on.