Okonkwo was pleased that Ikemefuna was helping Nwoye become more manly and less effeminate. Nwoye complained less, outwardly shunned feminine stories (although he secretly still liked them), and seemed to work harder.
Okonkwo initially felt that Ikemefuna had a positive influence on Nwoye, as he saw his son becoming more masculine and courageous. However, when Ikemefuna was killed, Okonkwo felt conflicted as he cared for the boy and realized the impact his death had on Nwoye. Ultimately, Nwoye's relationship with his father suffered as he became disillusioned with Okonkwo's violent ways.
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Okonkwo feels frustrated and disappointed when he hears Nwoye grumbling about women because he sees it as a sign of weakness and effeminacy, qualities he despises. He believes that Nwoye should be displaying more masculine traits and strength instead of complaining like a woman.
Okonkwo's disapproval and harsh treatment towards Nwoye, due to Nwoye's perceived weakness and differences in character, cause Nwoye to feel alienated, resentful, and eventually lead him to distance himself from his father and embrace Christianity when introduced to it by the missionaries. Okonkwo's rejection and lack of understanding of Nwoye's emotions and needs ultimately drive a wedge between them.
At first Ikemefuna is fearful, being away from his mother and father, but in time he adapts, becoming an older brother to Nwoye, and becoming Okonkwo's son. Ikemefuna even calls Okonkwo 'father'. He becomes the most manlike of the children in Okonkwo's eyes.
Ikemefuna acted as an older brother to Nwoye, and behaves like a perfect clansman. He teaches Nwoye many things including names of animals and insects, as well as smaller things like the name for a corn of cob with few grains. Ikemefuna has many stories that Nwoye delights in. He serves as a bridge between Nwoye and the traditions of the tribe.When Ikemefuna leaves him, Nwoye's connection to the old traditions are also broken.
Nwoye is horrified and deeply disturbed by his father's decision to sacrifice Ikemefuna, feeling betrayed and questioning his father's actions. This event ultimately leads to Nwoye's rejection of his father's beliefs and his eventual decision to leave the family to join the Christian missionaries.
Being well respected. - Nwoye agrees with this. In particular, in the later book No Longer At Ease, he seems to implicitly agree with this respect.Having titles. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this.Being able to represent egwugwu in the egwugwu court. - Nwoye does not even consider this.Killing men in war. - Nwoye has an aversion to these stories.Being wealthy. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this.Being a good farmer and a hard worker. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this, but is not particularly skilled at farming.Having wives. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this, but does not take a wife early in life.Having many children, particularly strong boys. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this.Having his daughters marry respected men. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this.Voicing one's opinion. -Nwoye's opinions do not always agree with his father's, so Nwoye is forced to hold his tongue in the presence of him.Being unafraid of war, and advocating for strong actions. - Nwoye seems to have a dislike of war, and is more a man of peace.Having everything in one's household under control, including wives and children. - Nwoye as a boy attempts to mutter about women and their problems in an attempt to please his dad. However, he doesn't really feel that strongly about this. He does however, exert control over his wife and her opinions later on in No Longer At Ease.Fighting lazy or stupid people. - Nwoye is not a fighter.Having respected friends. - Nwoye seems to have no problem with this.Being able to wrestle. - Nwoye is not a wrestler.Disliking idleness including excessive music. - Nwoye loves music, in contrast with the coolness exuded by his father towards it.Disliking feminine stories. - Nwoye loves his mother's stories, and is enchanted by them as well as the stories told by the Christians.
The beat of the drums filled Okonkwo with fire. Okonkwo felt the desire to conquer and subdue.
Yes, as a human it is hard not to feel compassion for Okonkwo for suffering for an accident. This may be mitigated by the reaction to some of Okonkwo's other deeds. It may be the gods teaching him a lesson.
Okonkwo does not like the festivals because he cannot work during them, and he prefers working to lazing and talking with neighbours.
His witnessing of the grief of a woman who was forced throw her twins away in the Evil Forest, and Ikemefuna's death made Nwoye feel limp inside, without strength.
-Okonkwo had a loss of appetite. -The bitterness in his heart was mixed with a king of child like excitement. I am pretty sure that is the answer.