How do you deal with a jerk dad?

Answer 1

The 1st thing you should know and believe in is that he lost you. It means he is not worth you. 2nd you should try your best not to be alone and always hang out with your friend and not think of him. Now the problem is before sleeping when your alone and he comes to your mind this you can solve by sleeping over at your friends or not going to bed unless you're very sleepy so you won't have to sit and think until you fall asleep.

Then if he calls you can pick up and shout at him and say whatever you feel inside but never show that your weak that's what kills the guys, never show your feelings to them never show that your hurt cause you lost him and always remember he lost you . Something that really helps is flirting with new guys till you make him history. I do know they say crying helps but for me I feel weak and stupid when I cry for a guy though I usually tear up but I never let the tear down so yeah I hope that helped you girls and all the best and always remember there is always 1000 of guys out there who would die to be with you. Good luck forgetting the jerks.

I'd like to add a few pointers. First the big one: catch yourself making excuses for him or putting him on a pedestal or idealizing your time together. Recognize that it was not all good and do not diminish the bad times. In fact I found it helpful to focus dis-proportionately on bad times. Eventually I regained a more balanced view of the relationship, but it helped with the recovery.

It hurts, it is painful, you may be doubting your self worth. Be nice to yourself at this time. Recovery is not a straight line. You will regress, you will make mistakes, you will repeat over and over the following words "why am i torturing myself" (be it for looking at his facebook profile, or trying to find out if he's going out with someone, or finding yourself wanting him again, even giving him a "friendly" call, or keeping and pondering over photos, letters, emails, presents etc.) Forgive yourself for relapses, and mistakes. Understand that this is a difficult period in your life and it will get better.

The next word of advice is, if possible, stay away from him. It is time for a hiatus, this is your time, healing time. Communicating back and forth, trying to be friends before atleast 6-7months have passed will not help you in the recovery.

Finally, build your life. build one that you enjoy, where you do the things you love to do. Take up a new hobby, rock climbing in particular can be empowering. Do one of the things that you'd always meant to do but never gotten around to. Re-discover yourself, who you are and what you like. Dissociate him from yourself. Understand that you can be (and have been before you met him) perfectly happy, confident, content, loving, and strong. you do not need him to live a full meaningful life. You can do this.

I think most of those things should work whether or not said jerk is a guy.

Answer 2

You just try your best to move on. It goes in one ear out the other. :)