With love and respect. She has cancer. You need to get past everything else.
I doubt your mother is narcassistic, but fighting for her life, or she has been preparing herself for her death. If she is cranky, teary-eyed, hard on you (the caregiver) then it's all quite normal. My own mother suffered from Dementia (early signs of Alzheimer's) and she was very hard on me. I was accuse from everything from fooling around with her insulin to stalking her. Of course this was not true, and as hurt as I was I simply would agree with her and basically "take the beating of verbal abuse." They can't help it and I dealt with this behavior from her as realizing my mother was simply a shadow of her former self and had absolutely no control over her Dementia. This isn't about you, but her. Look at your mother as a woman first and not just your mother. You've been together for a long time (good or bad) so finish off the journey with dignity and if not love (from past hurts) respect and help your mother die in peace by being there.
I'm not going to go out and say that your mother isn't narcissistic. She very well may be. I'm not sure what your life has been like - how old you are, what she's put you through, what you've put her through... and so on. There isn't really a great and clear answer to this question in specific, but the most I can tell you - that anyone can - is to hold your tongue when she goes on the "world for me, I deserve all" kick, to do whatever you can to help her be comfortable. There's really not much else you can do. You're not going to change her this late in the game, I'm betting, and she's just going to be her. That's it. Don't go overboard and melt yourself on some fire of martyrdom just to appease her but don't blow up in her face, either. Keep in mind it's your mother - you'll miss her when she's gone. .........Obligatory self-plug: my mother, who was physically and verbally abusive, bi polar and skitzo [literally] recently died of cancer... and it matters, very much, now that she's gone..... There are things you can't foresee feeling, at times - as abstract as that is, try to keep it in mind. Even though she's narcissistic, she is a person who tried to raise you. No matter what f-ed up things she may have done - or things she didn't do that you needed - she embodies this idea, this "not being alone" in the world, that's hard to comprehend when she's sitting right in front of you, being the wacky person I'm sure she can be, judging from the fact that you felt strongly enough to post this question. Think about what she means to you, and if she died, what would that do to you? Do you have hope for her? Do you want a normal mother? Do you feel like her sickness makes you afraid for that, for the potential loss of it? Thinking about these things can help you appreciate her in all her quirks now, before you can't look at her and tell you that you love her and truly mean it - and be able to see her smile, or at least know in your heart that you've done the right thing.TIPS TO GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK:
It's important that you take all the help you can get from the Cancer Assoc. Stress isn't good for you and don't feel guilty about having 'time off' and getting out with friends and enjoying yourself. If you don't look after yourself then you can't help your mother. Your mother could well be a narcissist, but, my bet is she is terrified and treatment for cancer can be hard on a patient. Be firm with your mother every so often if you feel she is being too hard on you. She relies on you more than you know and she won't press too hard for fear you'll walk away. Don't bully her, just be firm and let her know you have your limitations. If possible try getting her out into the land of the living even if you have to put her in a wheel chair.
block her incoming calls.
You keep reminding her that you are her child after all. Tell her that you are updated version of her!
The best way to deal with a narcissistic mother-in-law is to "kill her with kindness." This method works on most people, by the way. Be as nice and polite as you can possibly be but don't engage her more than you absolutely have to. Remain calm and don't feed into her narcissism and neediness.
You for sure want to steer clear of that person
You get far away from them, as fast as you can. And you stay away. www.vainencounters.com
The most unwanted characters are those with a Narcissistic personality disorder, and the way to deal with them is to avoid them.
Yes of course - but now they are moving towards being narcissistic psychopaths.
Sometimes. I'm a Virgo and my late mother was a cancer. She was extremely sensitive and wasn't always able to deal with me being prone to emotional outbursts.
You don't. You get away as soon as possible. And get counseling for YOURSELF.
Get out of there! You can't change them, so I move on to more sane people.
My mother suffered from (undiagnosed) Narcissistic Personality Disorder. During the last years of her life she showed signs of Dementia. My step-mother (my father knew how to pick his women!!) has been, for her entire life, a full blown narcissist with all the traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She has recently (she is 78) been diagnosed with Vascular Dementia. I have no idea how to cope with it. It is soul destroying to have to deal with her.
Not unless you find a good therapist and get some help with those issues. Check with your local mental health association for professionals who deal with childhood trauma.
yep,I think so If the mother do have BLOOD CANCER.
Her mother didn't have cancer , it was her aunt died from cervical cancer
let him have his time with her but you stay away and dont allow him to abuse you
No, his mother had cancer though.
Yes. Narcissistic Mothers always do.
A narcissistic mother will definitely affect her male children. She will make her children extremely dependent on them even if they have their own families. The male children will always contact them whenever they want to make certain decisions.
Hitler was 18 when his mother died of breast cancer.
His Mother Died From Cancer
why did your mother die from being a whore?
madonna's mother died of cancer
No cancer cannot be passed on genetically but you can still get it.
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