How do you fix a messed up relationship with the perfect girl?

Answer 1

AnswerIf the girl was perfect then there wouldn't be a mess up. There is no such thing as a perfect man or woman as we all have our faults.

The main problem with most relationships is lack of communication and the lack of interest in what each other is doing. It's a tough balance to have a good relationship whether you are just dating, living together or married.

I suggest you both sit down together and not attack each other, but be candid and ask her what things bother her about you and then you tell her what it is she does that can bother you. After all, you are putting two different personalities together and it's OK to "agree to disagree." A woman or man should never let the other know 100% about themselves (as long as there is no cheating going on) and always keep a mystery to the relationship. It's important that both people can be independent and go off to do their own thing and not always be draped around the other person. It's important to go out with friends and have a good time. Too much of anything is good for nothing. It's called maturity when you do this.

When you love each other that doesn't mean that either partner should be doing all the giving and understanding. You give to each other on a balanced level and what I mean by giving is your time, understanding, loyalty, honesty and if there is a problem starting in your relationship sit down and talk about it before it gets out of control.

Been there, done that. Its sometimes possible to fix relationships, people do it. No common, but possible. One important criteria though: this only ever works WHERE PEOPLE HAD A STRONG RELATIONSHIP TO BEGIN WITH, for a significantly long period of time, say over a year (the longer, the better your chances, i suppose.)

But the odds of "fixing" anything with some girl that has: lost respect for you; is seeing someone else already; indicated she doesnt desire your attention and been even half serious; are sadly, VERY BAD. Hanging on to someone who really doesnt want you around, and otherwise acting like a pesky little brother, is just like hanging on to a rising balloon. If you let go right away, you only fall a couple feet and you're fine. If you hesitate, hem and haw, make excuses, or engage in magical thinking ("surely this balloon will do what i want sooner or later!") then when you let go, you are so high up when you hit, you are gonna hurt!

SHE may be perfect for YOU bit it has to be mutual. If it isn't, there isn't much you can do. Stalking, stunts, showing off, gifts, etc. none of it ever works, so save your money, and your ego - you got to just MOVE ON. There are 6 billion people in the world and at least half are women, don't forget that! Until the day you meet another Ms Right who makes you forget all about whats-her-face!