How do you stop being a player?

Answer 1

Take this from an ex player: it is hard, VERY hard. The first step is you need to find out yourself if you really actually want to stop. Sometimes you watch a chick flick and think you would want that and try to change. Don't get me wrong, I am in no circumstances saying it is good to be a player.

Second step: if you found out that you actually do want it, you need to cut all ties with any floozie you have; just stop it completely. Just ignore them. Tell them you are done, then ignore them. Don't even notice their existence. They will soon receive the message.

Third step: tell the one you want that you want them. If they know you're a player, prove them wrong and earn their trust. This is one of the harder steps, but also a rough accomplishment.

Fourth step: once they trust you, take them out, treat them right. and its just a regular relationship from there.

I'm going to say this now: the floozies will make a comeback. They WILL try and unbutton your pants, but every time they try, you need to have the confidence, and the right mind set. If you don't have a pre-determined mind set of "I'm going to hang with this girl, and nothing is going to happen" odds are, something will happen. The toughest time I had was when I had invited one of my old floozies over to test myself. She came over and we were going to watch a movie... half way through the movie, her hand made her way into my pants. As much as I wished I would have let her continue, I stood up, pointed to the door, and said out.

After that I knew I could handle anything, any one threw at me. You just need the right mind set, and someone to love.