Is this elderly person really narcissistic or are they suffering from Dementia or Alzheimers. My bet is on the last two. These are the symptoms:
ParanoiaAccusing others of stealing or doing things they are notArguementativeCryingRagesMemory loss Regaining memory for short periods of timeStriking out at the caregiver (kicking, slapping)Abusive languageAlienating themselves from family and friends
These are only a few of symptoms. I went through this with my own mother and took it personally for awhile. Then I realized through the doctor after she had an MRI scan done on her that she was indeed suffering from Dementia. They put her on a drug called "Resperidol" and she was almost her old self. Unfortunately, this drug is not a cure, but does slow down the retardation of Dementia and Alzheimers.
I do sympathize with you, but please, if you can, have this person evaluated by their family doctor before making judgment calls against them.
Good luckMarcyAnswerThere is no dementia present in my father. He is a classic narssist. At the ripe age of 93 he only becomes more vile each and every day. I despise him for abusing my Mother, myself and sexually abusing both my children. My father so severly damaged my son that he lives on disability after graduating with a masters degree.
As my Mother lay dying in her hospital bed, he came to visit her once, I refused to bring him, she had suffered enough. One thing my Mother despised was to have her feet touched and the first thing he did was tickle her feet. After her death and during the funeral arrangements we had agreed on mid-grade funeral. My brother had ben buried in a copper tone casket, I found it more than appropriate to bury mother in the same kind of casket. My father was all for it, later that night I overheard him speaking to another family member that he had wanted her buried in a white casket. Liar, and classic N signature. I always bought my Mothers' clothes and chose what I wanted her buried in and that turned into another war. What does a 93 year old man know about fashion and how a woman should be buried and presented at death? She wore a beautiful Calvin Klein suit, which I knew she loved. So, now I am stuck with father all the time, leaving my own home and husband. My father and I constantly fight and I feel so guilty, but I know that is all part of his game. He will not take his heart meds, he must have them delivered like Mother used to do. I will not. He complains about his menu, because it is not like Mothers. On and On he goes about everyhting, until I explode.
My son was a huge help to me at first, but then father smarted off to him about leaving a faucet dripping. The faucet has been dripping for 12 years. My son, is very verbal and really ripped into him and I thought he might even try to kill him because he had picked up a knife. This is the posistion a N puts you in after years of abuse. My son not only suffers from his grandfathers abuse, but the trauma of knowing he physically beat myself and Mother. After that incident my son had to be hospitilized for four weeks.
My whole family has suffered so much due to this horrid man. Selfish,arrogant, and so much more he was, but to everyone else we were the perfect family. I keep his secrets no more and finally expose him for what he is-NOTHING.
Elderly abuse is on the rise and even in some cases in some nursing homes or in the elderly person's home or if they are staying with one of their children. One must prove that the accused caregiver is actually abusing the elderly person. Some people use video cameras if they have hired a caregiver to come in an look after an elderly parent and in some cases children of the elderly who have a parent in a nursing home and suspected abuse have used video taping to catch the nurses involved actually abusing their parent. This is more common than some people realize, but there are good nursing homes. Taking care of the elderly is a daunting deed and some elderly people (due to no fault of their own) can be become stubborn such as not wanting to eat; not taking their medications; going to therapy; going to the doctors, etc. This can make an untrained caregiver very frustrated and if it continues for a long period of time there is more risk that the untrained caregiver may abuse of an elderly parent. The best one can do is to work on finding a safe place such as a nursing home or a trained caregiver to take over this difficult task of meeting the elderly person's needs. The elderly often have one or more health issues and they can be childlike in manner and many have Alzheimer's and cannot help themselves and are not responsible for what they say or do, so, to abuse the elderly is just as disgusting as abusing a child. If one can not prove the elderly is abused and if it is their parent or a relatives parents or even a friends parent then it is a good idea to discuss with the caregiver of their parent that it is time to get in a professional caregiver or their parent needs to be in a nursing home. If a caregiver is falsely accused then they can set up their own video camera so their duties will be monitored. One has to prove that caregiver has abused that elderly person. It would also be wise to seek legal counsel.
Some factors of abuse of the elderly is because more often than not one of the siblings will have to look after a very ill parent. Diseases such as Dementia (sister of Alzheimer's) and Alzheimer's is common and the elderly that are suffering from these terrible diseases can be very irrational; violent; getting up in the night and leaving the home not knowing where they are or where they are going; they can be demanding; say terrible things to their son or daughter, but it is the aging process that kills off brain cells so the elderly parent is a shadow of their former self. This in turn leaves the caregiver exhausted; hurt at some of the things their parent may say; frustrated and a feeling of desperation. Caregiving is often left up to the female of either the son of the elderly parent or their own parent and the Caregiver may be raising children; possibly working which is basically burning the candle at both ends. The caregiver may fear they will lash out verbally or physically because of their mixed feelings and some do. This is the time when they have to realize their aging parent needs to be put into a nursing home where trained nurses can handle the situation and proper medications given by doctors to help the aging parent.
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It is highly likely that a child raised by very narcissistic parents will not become narcissistic. They might struggle to undo enmeshment, dependence, and approval seeking behaviors. It depends on how much the child perceives his or her own sense of otherness in comparison to his or her parent.
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Caregivers of parents is an extremely difficult job especially when the elderly parent could have Dementia or Alzheimer's. Dementia and Alzheimer's makes the elderly parent paranoid (they really believe what they say is happening to them); they can sometimes be destructive; wander away from home; lash out verbally and physically at their caregiver or tell other members of the family how terribly they are treated when, in fact, they are not. It is often the best no matter how painful to put the elderly parent into a decent nursing home where trained nurses can handle the situation and medications can safely be given to help the elderly patient have some peace of mind. Try to remember that your elderly parent is now a shadow of their former self and they drift in and out of recognizing you or, they may possibly not remember you at all and remember another member of the family or even one of your friends and this is no reflection on you. Try to remember the good memories you had with your elderly parent instead of how they are behaving now.
No. A person without legal custody cannot sue the parent for child support. On the other hand, if the caregiver has an agreement with the custodial parent to pay for childcare and the custodial parent has breached that agreement, the caregiver can sue for the amount owed. If there was no agreement to pay then the caregiver has the option to stop providing free childcare but they cannot create a financial obligation where there was none agreed upon in the first place.No. A person without legal custody cannot sue the parent for child support. On the other hand, if the caregiver has an agreement with the custodial parent to pay for childcare and the custodial parent has breached that agreement, the caregiver can sue for the amount owed. If there was no agreement to pay then the caregiver has the option to stop providing free childcare but they cannot create a financial obligation where there was none agreed upon in the first place.No. A person without legal custody cannot sue the parent for child support. On the other hand, if the caregiver has an agreement with the custodial parent to pay for childcare and the custodial parent has breached that agreement, the caregiver can sue for the amount owed. If there was no agreement to pay then the caregiver has the option to stop providing free childcare but they cannot create a financial obligation where there was none agreed upon in the first place.No. A person without legal custody cannot sue the parent for child support. On the other hand, if the caregiver has an agreement with the custodial parent to pay for childcare and the custodial parent has breached that agreement, the caregiver can sue for the amount owed. If there was no agreement to pay then the caregiver has the option to stop providing free childcare but they cannot create a financial obligation where there was none agreed upon in the first place.
Yes. It has been noted that a person with NPD often has at least one parent who has a narcissistic personality.
yes they can because if they dont then they would suffer twice as much as a person that does get financial help
You can't just throw a diagnose around and expect everyone will be the same. A narcissistic parent would probably not be the best parent but not dangerous. This is something a doctor have to evaluate case by case.
You don't have to be the parent to be charged-any caretaker can be.
Taking care of an elderly parent can be difficult as well as rewarding. If your parent is more at risk for falls, you may have to alter the layout of your home accordingly, clearing clutter from walkways and adding handholds to your bathroom and shower. If your parent has a serious medical condition, a trained medical professional such as an at home caregiver may have to be hired for the times you cannot perform the necessary care for your parent, or times when no one will be home and the parent needs to be watched. Items such as medical alert systems can be purchased in order to monitor a senior parent in the home in case of a fall or other emergency, and provides the senior with a wearable button to press for immediate connection to emergency services.
If you've been exposed to narcissistic abuse in childhood, you're more likely to end up with narcissistic partners if you haven't worked through your abuse. Adult Children of Narcissists (ACONs) have a number of issues to resolve.
Yes, unless there is some kind of order prohibiting you from having contact with your parent.
That children are often supervised and cared for by a person other than a parent or caregiver.
You should consult an attorney concerning this.
There is some ambiguity in the situation you describe; lots of people have an element of narcissism in their personality, which is not the same thing as a narcissistic personality disorder. Someone with a narcissistic personality disorder should never raise children, because the children will inevitably be harmed, quite seriously. Even an impersonal and relatively uncaring institution is better than such a parent.
I can respect their valued suggestion which helps me to grow up as a good citizen and successful employee to listen the narcissistic advices. But We have to remember that"excess of any thing is bad". I can never respect a parent or boss who all the time use to do advice and never will accept my own identity. In such a case I will never respect such a narcissistic parent or boss. Advices and experiences help to achieve goal but not in excessive manner. I would like to learn with my own experiences too.
Yes - the POA should be able to apply on the elderly parent's behalf.
It is generally the adult children of the elderly person that tries to get their parent into a nursing home if the elderly person is no longer competent to look after themselves, but in many States and in Canada this has to be doctor approved for the security of that elderly parent because some elderly parents are quite capable of living with their grown children or even on their own. However, either in a Will or if the elderly person is lucid (thinking very clearly) they can name anyone to become Power of Attorney to care for them if they do not trust their adult children's decisions.
No it does not, not in any state.