What are the causes and effect of strict parenting?

Answer 1

One can be too strict with no rhyme or reason and can cause their children to become confused and the war is on! A parent may say, "Grow up!" and in the same breath say, "You'll do as I say because you are still a kid!" This is confusing to younger people. They are either old enough to take on responsibility and to learn from their mistakes or they are too young to take on responsibility.

It's a real balancing act for parents. A parent should be strict as far as their children having good manners; learning to be loyal to family and friends; staying power when they feel in their heart something is right; getting a good education; following their dreams and you have a right to discuss with them and prevent them from choosing friends that are nothing but trouble. You have the right to be aware of drugs and to make sure your kids understand the outcome of street drugs and also good information about sex. However, sometimes adults can learn much from the young so it's to a parents best interest to listen to their children once in awhile.

Having a family meeting once a week and discussing problems or unfairness between you and your children (they have a right to express themselves as well) and actually listening and then taking a little of both (parent/child) is a good way to resolve many problems. It makes your children stronger and teaches them to communicate well and to "go with the flow" or "fight for their rights." It also teaches them that "it's OK to agree to disagree" and there is always an answer to most problems.

Don't forget, growing up in today's world is harder than it was for most of us. The kids are inundated with media and hear a lot of horrible things on the news, when we didn't have to deal with that and we could just simply have fun and not worry about world events. They have peer pressure. Studying is a lot harder to get passing grades and some kids work when they go to college so the stress can be very high even if they are living at home. A parent telling the odd funny story of their own experiences often helps to meld with their teenager and lets them realize that their parents were kids once too. By being more open and non-condemning you run a higher chance of your teenager communicating with you.

Don't be afraid to let your kids earn their own money for those extra things they want. One of my girlfriends gives her kids money for clothes that are just every day brands and if they want top name brand clothes they have to go out and work for it. Kids should know how much things cost today. By doing it this way it takes the pressure off the parents. Not all parents can afford to buy their kids name-brand clothes (and the fashion world targets the kids as you know.)

I live in British Columbia and we just got a big snowfall (yahooeey!) but we notice that there isn't one kid out there shoveling snow (even for money) and in the summer not one kid even mowing a neighbors lawn. Why? Because the parents make things too easy for their kids. My brother and I grew up in the 50s and we had to babysit, mow lawns (and rake) and shovel snow. There were times we were made to do this for older neighbors without pay. Of course my brother and I grumbled a little, but I'm so glad my parents taught us those things. Even now with my husband and I in our 60s we'll always help out a neighbor that is older than us.

Answer 2

The cause of it may be that it's the parent's cultural traditions, they grew up with these rules, they're paranoid, or they're simply fearful of losing control (among other underlying issues). The effects on the children include lacking social ability (having difficult time keeping friends because they cannot spend time with them or can't maintain them because they don't know how to communicate with others because they've never been in social settings), ignorance (they'll know nothing about how things work or won't know how to do anything), and possibly depression (people are essential for happiness, for health; being deprived of that can cause severe damage), or some kind of mental disorder. Not to mention their stress, unhappiness, and low self-esteem.

There's a difference between strict parents and parents that need to discipline their spoiled/misbehaving children. NEVER can anything be progressed if parents assume their child is everyone else's (you're at an age that teenagers...). A parent should know how their child works (if not, learn), a parent should have a positive relationship with their child and both sides need to gain that trust. Without it, everything is dead.

Some parents do what they do just because they want you to always be here with them. they keep you on a short leash to hold you tighter to let you know that they will always be their for you, because they love you and your their child that they made and they want the best for You :)

Answer 2

Strict parenting or authoritarian parenting is usually happened when parents want complete and unquestioning obedience from their children. There are usually lot of rules. They would all be very strict and therefore the consequences for disobedience would need to be severe. This parenting method is not a good idea actually. The parents think that children are less importance and therefore children will often begin to feel that way as well. This can lead to low self esteem and will make the children to have their difficulty of growing intellectually and expressing their creativity properly. In turn, the children will rebel and look for approval and understanding outside their home. They may end up seeking approval in alcohol, drugs, or other risky behaviors that gains the respect from their peers.