What can you do when your mother-in-law is being highly irritating?

Answer 1

If your mother-in-law is annoying, who trys to break you and her son/daughter up, then don't fight back. Instead, you should be super nice to her and compliment her at all possible opportunities. Tell her she doesn't look as old as she is and cling to your spouse whenever she is there.

Answer 2

My soon to be mother in law has been mean and horrible to me since we met. Ever since my fiance and I got engaged, she is even worse! She insists on wearing black to the wedding even though she knows my discomfort with it. (in tradition the mother in law wears black to show her dis-satisfaction in the marriage) She said she doesn't give a hoot how I feel. She constantly tells me im not good enough. She said im not smart enough to do some gardening in the backyard. I grew up gardening with my mom! She knows this. She made nasty comments about my tattoos that will be showing during the wedding. She doesn't approve that my dress will show my ink. She HATES that her deceased husbands side of the family LOVES me and is sooo nice to me! She makes nasty comments about that all the time. She has even made nasty comments about MY parents whom she has never met. They are afraid to meet her. Even his sister is plotting with the mother in law against me to directly go against my wedding wishes!!!

Answer:

That is awful She is so mean. I feel sorry for you. But one thing is true, you have to try to get along. talk about things she likes. This may not help much, but every now and then, try to talk about her now and then. try not to talk about urself, whether positively or negatively. This is how I got along with my mother-in-law, but she was never that mean

One very important thing is that you and your fiance should sit down and talk about the situation. He needs to understand what is going on and be willing to defend you when his mother treats you poorly. If he does not the marriage will be difficult at best.