What do you do if your girlfriend doesn't feel it when you kiss anymore or often pushes you away when you try to show effection but still loves you and would like to do something about the problem?

Answer 1

This is a tough one. You two need to communicate. That is going to be the most important step. The communication needs to be open and calm. Don't lay blame or anger on the other person. Just be honest and tell them how it makes you feel and how you two can solve the problem together.

Now if you're just curious on why this is happening, there could be a million reasons. Honestly, with the information you gave in the question, it sounds like she is rejecting your affection for a specific reason. Now whatever that reason is, only she knows. Here are some ideas based on my personal experience. It could be that she is going through a tough emotional time and needs space. Women are complex creatures, and this could be a hormonal or stress thing. Another reason could be something you're doing that she doesn't like. Most people won't tell you straight out how they feel. Maybe you need to change the way you touch or kiss her, but she's too embarrassed or worried to say anything. Trust me, this is a huge thing in every relationship. Again, communication without taking anything personally is the best bet. Now, getting onto the more negative possible answers. It could be that she isn't into you like she used to be. Maybe you two need to "spice things up", by surprising her with something nice or romantic or different. People get bored. Relationships get boring. It's life. Try to break the normal stuff and try something new. The worst case scenario is she just really isn't attracted to you and she just doesn't have the "balls" to say it. This happens way more than it should. Women can love someone without wanting to touch or sleep with them. Unfortunately, this is something that cannot be fixed. So my answer is to try out everything I said above, work on whatever she says, and try to stay positive. If she gives you no answer or constantly walks away, then you can consider if the relationship is going anywhere. It's never worth it to put yourself through pain. Good luck and I hope you two can fix it.