What is a sissy maid?

Answer 1

A "sissy maid" is a cross-dressed submissive male engaged in what is sometimes called "domestic service" fetish play. Typically, the male dresses in the stereotypical (sometimes to the point of parody) style of a maid or other female domestic servant from a Western country circa late 18th to early 20th century. The subject's masculinity and their status as an equal of their fellows is thus simultaneously belittled. (Hence "sissy" and "maid.") Fetish scenes usually involve actual domestic work (such as cooking, table service, and cleaning) and often personal grooming services (such as pedicures, running baths, brushing hair, laying out clothes). The "sissy maid" is directed in these activities by their play partner, (commonly a female, but sometimes another male) who takes the role of employer/owner ("Mistress" or "Master," now archaic titles that are contemporaneous with the historic costume of the maid). Various verbal and physical humiliations are usually layered on top of the demeaning implications of the work and dress. It is not unusual for some sexual activity to also take place, although there are situations in which the sexually charged cross-dressing and fetish submission is all that occurs between the two people. "Domestic service" is frequently combined by couples with other forms of BDSM activity. As with any other fetish activity, there is a wide variety of commitment, from married couples who just talk about it as fantasy in the bedroom to people who publicly live their fetish lifestyle - and their fantasy of being a "sissy maid" - 24/7/365.