Why does husband always defend ex wife?

Answer 1

At some point, he loved and trusted this woman with all his heart. He had some great times with her for years and not all his memories of that time are bad. When you make fun of her a bit too much, you are making fun of his choice of a wife. It cuts deep and will make him defensive which may make him defend her. He isn't really defending her though, he is defending himself and a choice her made that just didn't work out. You don't have to love or even like the other woman, but you can never insult memories away. And he can love you without hating her. You gain nothing by trying to make another person smaller anyway, try making yourself bigger instead.

Answer 2

Well, My fathe ris a huge jerk who always defends HIS parents, So i understand where your coming from. I think it is the protective instinct in men.

Opinion

Your husband never took the leap into full adulthood. He never left his place as a child of his parents and never took his place as an adult and as your husband. He never pulled on his big boy pants. Perhaps if he admits they are a problem he must admit that he is a problem also. Unfortunately, that kind of misplaced loyalty doesn't usually change.

Answer 3

well he is most likly still in love or did love that person or i could mean something elss