How do you tell your parents your not a virgin?

Answer 1

I think he should've known that before he became your boyfriend. Being able to be as honest as possible should be one of the best things about being with someone. But there is no need to be extremely worried about it. You tell him at the moment and situation you feel is right to tell him. In a moment where both you and him are feeling confident and relaxed. Don't blurt it out randomly. Tell him you have something important to tell him, that you're shy and make it clear to him that it's important to you. But don't beat around the bush, just tell honestly and apologize if you've lied about it before.

If it bothers him immensely up to the point he doesn't want to be with you, then be mature and understanding about it, and move on. Even though the truth may be he's a jerk, it won't be worth your time or frustration. It really shouldn't bother a guy whether or not you're a virgin. Move on and eventually you'll bump into someone who has alot more to them than worrying about small stuff like that. There is millions of miles to a person than the whole sex/virginity part. And there's alot of guys in this world. so don't stress it if he doesnt want to be with you. move on, date and have fun.

Answer 2

Say, "Mom, I'm not a virgin anymore!" Tell it like it is, and soon ... better now than later.

well, because most moms are generally pissed when you tell them that sort of thing, you need to be very humbled in her presence and apologetic or she will get quite upset. If you know she will not be OK with it, you should start by saying "Mom, I understand you probably did not want me to do this until I was older, but I want to tell you that I have already lost my virginity. I'm really sorry if (or that) you are mad. I just thought i would tell you because you are my Mom, and you deserve to know these things about me." you can also ask her forgiveness if you wish, and it will lessen the blow. Whatever you do, do not rub it in her face!! this is very ruse and insulting to a mother who has worked all your life to grow you into a respectable and smart person. Good Luck, non virgins! Don't get pregnant TOO early!

Answer 3

Ease them into it. Tell them you need to talk, and start off by saying how much you love them. Then say that you did something, they probably will not like. Then, just say, "I had sex" or "I'm not a virgin anymore". Whichever's easiest. If your parents will hit you, I recommend you tell them with people close by to hear something.
Surely you don't have to tell them, if it causes you concern maybe you shouldn't, try not to worry about it.

If you really want/have to, its probably best not to tell your dad first as they tend to be the most protective.

Pick a good moment and lean the conversation in that direction so it doesn't just come out of the blue, once you're talking about similar things mention it subtly and go from there. Another view: That depends on the reason for telling them. Are you concerned you may be pregnant or contracted an STD? If so, then you need to talk to one or both of them (which ever you're the most comfortable with), and tell them your concerns. Parents never want to think about their "baby" no longer being a virgin, but they do realize it will happen sooner or later. These days, it's very rare for someone to be a virgin when they get married, and your parents realize this, too. Remember, they were once teens also, but that still doesn't prevent them from being disappointed (depending on how young you are). If you feel you should tell them, be prepared for them to possibly be at least a little upset at first, which is a normal reaction, and doesn't mean they love you any less. Just be honest in your reasons for telling them, and in answering any questions they may have.

Answer 4

Sexual activity is a private act and does not need to be shared with anyone except your chosen (hopefully lifetime) partner. If you are underage, still in your teens, and you feel guilty about losing your virginity, you can unburden yourself to a parent, but do so gently. They will not be expecting to hear this from you, but if you feel close enough to them, it will please them that you trust them enough to tell them. If you are planning on being sexually active, you may need their advice as to Birth Control and how to recognize sexually transmitted diseases.

Answer 5

Depending on how old you are, just tell him you're becoming a man and have "needs" that every guy does. But this only works if you're at least 16. It worked for me!

Of course, if you're a girl, that won't work very well. I suggest (boy or girl) that you start by saying something like, "Dad, I love you. I have something important to tell you, and I am trusting that you love me. After I tell you, I would like you to think about it for a while before you say anything."

You might even want to write it all down before you actually talk to him.

Answer 6

Do you have to tell them? It's your body not theirs. Sit down with your mom and tell her what happened. She can tell your dad.

Answer 7

Tell her softly..... make sure you let her know that you know you was wrong. If you are a girl consider asking for birth control.