Can a person ever get over the pain of realizing that an ex-narcissist has no remorse?

Answer 1

I don't think you ever do. All you can do is learn to let go of the pain within

Yes. I thought that would be the hardest but in time you just dont care how and what they think. You will just be glad to have your self esteem and life back. There is no future with these types.

That really depends on you, not the narcissist. People are amazing in their capacity to recover. You are a healthier person if you are able to recover and grow past it. It does take time, time and more time. Realizing the person was a narcissist can be healing, since it means you were duped, but at least you were really emotionally invested in the relationship. It helps explain so much to know that the other person was a narcissist. It's good to find a friend (or a therapist) who is willing to let you talk about it and work through it. In time, the pain will fade. It might even go altogether. I heard a quote from an old movie (sorry don't know the title) "I don't believe someone can ever get over something like that...but in time, you can put it where it belongs." That's been my goal for getting over the pain my narcissist caused: to put it where it belongs. After all, that's what separates us from narcissists and other unprincipled people: we don't run rampant when something bad happens to us. We have the self-control to learn and grow, not to act out against others.