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Do narcissists like to be famous?
You bet they adore being famous, or even notorious. This, by far, is their predominant drive. Being famous encompasses a few important functions: it endows the narcissist with power, provides him with a constant Source of Narcissistic Supply (admiration, adoration, approval, awe) and fulfils important Ego functions. The image that the narcissist projects is hurled back at him, reflected in the eyes (or in the imagined eyes) of those exposed to the celebrity or fame of the narcissist. This way he feels alive, his very existence is affirmed and it begets a sensation of clear boundaries (where the narcissist ends and the world begins).
There is a set of narcissistic behaviours typical to the pursuit of celebrity. There is almost nothing that the narcissist refrains from doing, almost no borders that he hesitates to cross to achieve renown. To him, there is no such thing as "bad publicity" � what is important is to be in the public eye. Because the narcissist equally enjoys all types of attention and likes as much to be feared as to be loved, for instance � he doesn't mind if what is published about him is wrong ("as long as they spell his name correctly"). The only bad emotional stretches are those that are endured by the narcissist during periods of lack of attention, publicity, or exposure. The narcissist then feels empty, hollowed out, negligible, humiliated, wrathful, discriminated against, deprived, neglected, treated unjustly and so on. At first, he tries to compromise and obtain attention from ever narrowing groups of reference ("supply scale down"). But the feeling that he is compromising gnaws at his anyhow fragile self-esteem. Sooner or later, the spring bursts. The narcissist plots, contrives, plans, conspires, thinks, analyses, synthesises and does whatever else is necessary to regain the lost publicity. The more he fails to secure the attention of the target group (always the largest he can access) � the more daring, eccentric and outlandish he becomes. Firm decision is transformed into resolute action and then to a panicky pattern of attention seeking behaviours.
The narcissist is not really interested in publicity per se. Using typical conversion, displacement and projection mechanisms � the narcissist always appears to be different than he is. He appears to love himself � and, really, he abhors himself. Similarly, he appears to be interested in becoming a celebrity � and, in reality, it is the REACTIONS to his fame that interest him: people watch him, notice him, talk about him, debate his actions � therefore he exists. He goes around "hunting and collecting" how the expressions on people's faces change when they notice him. He places himself in the centre of discussions, even as a figure of controversy. He constantly and recurrently pesters those nearest and dearest to him in a bid to reassure himself that he is not losing his fame, his magic touch, the attention of members of his reference group.
Truly, the narcissist is not choosy. If he can become famous as a writer � he writes, if as a businessman � he conducts business. He switches from one field to the other with ease and without remorse because in all of them he is present without conviction, bar the conviction that he must (and deserves to) get famous. He grades activities, hobbies and people not according to the pleasure that they give him � but according to their utility: can they or can't they make him known and, if so, to what extent. The narcissist is one-track minded (not to say obsessive). His is a world of black (being unknown and deprived of attention) and white (being famous and celebrated).
Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" My ex and I are both professional musicians that play the same instrument. When I met him I was at the top in my class, getting all sorts of work and I was highly respected. He seemed supportive of me...at first. He began a slow, insidious put-down of my talents and abilities in the form of subtle criticisms. He began to demand that I attend all of his shows to watch him play. He would tell me that he was the greatest and that he was wasting his talent in my town, also that the only reason he stayed was because of me. (Talk about a guilt trip, right?) Well, long story short, over a years time I nearly quit playing to support him and his musical goals...tsk tsk.Shame on me. I smartened up in time and kicked him to the curb.All the musicians in my circle have confessed they avoided me because of my "ego-maniac boyfriend." No one likes him anyway, it seems. I have restored my self confidence and now I play full time. I haven't heard a peep out of him!
� 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications
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There are no reliable stats. It seems to be a case of genetic predisposiiton brought out by environmental factors. For sure the almost stand alone factor is emotional ab…andonment by BOTH parents during infancy / early childhood. Some lines indicate having an N-Momster rather than an N-Dad leads to a higher incidence of N-ism in a child. However from what I have observed, most children growing up with an N-parent are at risk of becoming co-dependent rather than a N-ist. Co-dependency being the 'opposite' to N-ism. With N-ism there is an overvaluing of the self and with co-dependency an undervaluing or disrespect of self or one's ego boundaries. Having an N parent certainly increases the risk of turning a golden baby into an 'evil' machine. I think narcissism is a very heritable trait. I think in my case, it's apparent that my narcissism was inherited because the narcissism is on the dad's side of the family, and my non-narcissistic mom was the primary caregiver. My dad's sister and my sister are narcissists, and I have very strong narcissistic traits. But I think we were raised in perfectly normal environments (although I blamed my mom for my problems for years). My mom was relatively normal and loving, but my dad kept to himself. After huge traumas, my narcissistic traits became inverted and I became aware that something was wrong.
Answer . The narcissistic leader is the culmination and reification of his period, culture, and civilization. He is likely to rise to prominence in narcissistic societies..… The malignant narcissist invents and then projects a false, fictitious, self for the world to fear, or to admire. He maintains a tenuous grasp on reality to start with and this is further exacerbated by the trappings of power. The narcissist's grandiose self-delusions and fantasies of omnipotence and omniscience are supported by real life authority and the narcissist's predilection to surround himself with obsequious sycophants.. The narcissist's personality is so precariously balanced that he cannot tolerate even a hint of criticism and disagreement. Most narcissists are paranoid and suffer from ideas of reference (the delusion that they are being mocked or discussed when they are not). Thus, narcissists often regard themselves as "victims of persecution".. The narcissistic leader fosters and encourages a personality cult with all the hallmarks of an institutional religion: priesthood, rites, rituals, temples, worship, catechism, mythology. The leader is this religion's ascetic saint. He monastically denies himself earthly pleasures (or so he claims) in order to be able to dedicate himself fully to his calling.. The narcissistic leader is a monstrously inverted Jesus, sacrificing his life and denying himself so that his people - or humanity at large - should benefit. By surpassing and suppressing his humanity, the narcissistic leader became a distorted version of Nietzsche's "superman".. But being a-human or super-human also means being a-sexual and a-moral.. In this restricted sense, narcissistic leaders are post-modernist and moral relativists. They project to the masses an androgynous figure and enhance it by engendering the adoration of nudity and all things "natural" - or by strongly repressing these feelings. But what they refer to as "nature" is not natural at all.. The narcissistic leader invariably proffers an aesthetic of decadence and evil carefully orchestrated and artificial - though it is not perceived this way by him or by his followers. Narcissistic leadership is about reproduced copies, not about originals. It is about the manipulation of symbols - not about veritable atavism or true conservatism.. In short: narcissistic leadership is about theatre, not about life. To enjoy the spectacle (and be subsumed by it), the leader demands the suspension of judgment, depersonalization, and de-realization. Catharsis is tantamount, in this narcissistic dramaturgy, to self-annulment.. Narcissism is nihilistic not only operationally, or ideologically. Its very language and narratives are nihilistic. Narcissism is conspicuous nihilism - and the cult's leader serves as a role model, annihilating the Man, only to re-appear as a pre-ordained and irresistible force of nature.. Narcissistic leadership often poses as a rebellion against the "old ways" - against the hegemonic culture, the upper classes, the established religions, the superpowers, the corrupt order. Narcissistic movements are puerile, a reaction to narcissistic injuries inflicted upon a narcissistic (and rather psychopathic) toddler nation-state, or group, or upon the leader.. Minorities or "others" - often arbitrarily selected - constitute a perfect, easily identifiable, embodiment of all that is "wrong". They are accused of being old, they are eerily disembodied, they are cosmopolitan, they are part of the establishment, they are "decadent", they are hated on religious and socio-economic grounds, or because of their race, sexual orientation, origin ... They are different, they are narcissistic (feel and act as morally superior), they are everywhere, they are defenceless, they are credulous, they are adaptable (and thus can be co-opted to collaborate in their own destruction). They are the perfect hate figure. Narcissists thrive on hatred and pathological envy.. This is precisely the source of the fascination with Hitler, diagnosed by Erich Fromm - together with Stalin - as a malignant narcissist. He was an inverted human. His unconscious was his conscious. He acted out our most repressed drives, fantasies, and wishes. He provides us with a glimpse of the horrors that lie beneath the veneer, the barbarians at our personal gates, and what it was like before we invented civilization. Hitler forced us all through a time warp and many did not emerge. He was not the devil. He was one of us. He was what Arendt aptly called the banality of evil. Just an ordinary, mentally disturbed, failure, a member of a mentally disturbed and failing nation, who lived through disturbed and failing times. He was the perfect mirror, a channel, a voice, and the very depth of our souls.
Many dictators, criminals and celebrities had or have narcissistic personalities. Hitler and Stalin both had grandiose self-images. So did Casanova, Marquis de Sade, Peter Sel…lers, the heart surgeon Christiaan Barnard. Other likely suspects are Madonna, Margaret Thatcher and Monica Lewinsky. Jim Jones, Sadam Hussein, Nero Warren Beatty, Ryan O'Neal, Alec Baldwin, Sharon Stone, Elvis Presley, William Shatner, OJ simpson, Joan Crawford Here are some more characters: Nellie Olsen of Little house on the Prairie "Q" of Star Trek Next Generation Pablo Picasso Ike Turner Lee Harvey Oswald Donald Trump Kayne West J.Cole. Paris Hilton
Like they are GOD and you are nothing.
No. In order to be a narcissist, a person has to have at least 5 traits of the disorder. Do your homework.
Jack Nicholson, Jerry Seinfeld, Barbara Walters
Yes. Any kind of excitement... especially the NO STRINGS ATTACHED, ALL ABOUT ME kind.
Dictators such as Hitler, Stalin, etc. Famous people who are reputed to be or suspected of being narcissists: Pablo Picasso Charlie Chaplin Peter Sellers Joan Craw…ford Marlon Brando Eva Peron Simon Cowell Remember, simply having a "fat head" does not qualify. The person has to have 5 things from the list of traits in order to be a true narcissist.
I think that most people don't like being ignored - it is not a nice feeling. Narcissists, especially, receive a narc injury if you ignore them. They start to fill up with ra…ge and then will ignore back. Also, within a few minutes they can switch and try and get your attention somehow (this is supply for them) and carry on like nothing has happened. THEY ARE WEIRD CREATURES!
Opinion Narcissism is a personality disorder not a mental illness; a narcissist is perfectly capable to make the distinction between right and wrong. If you wanted to ask i…f a narcissist will ever admit to others that he is one- NO-he will not alert the future victims and face the consequences of his actions. Opinion Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder are usually unwilling to acknowledge their disorder. Although some may recognize the difficulty they have in their relationships with other people, they blame others for those problems. They are unable to modify their behavior. They have a conviction that they can do no wrong. They often have a defective ability to interprete other people's speech and actions which leads them to think they are liked and respected. One of the striking hallmarks of NPD is the utter lack of self awareness. Many do not recognize that they have a problem at all. If they do suspect they have a problem they are more likely to step up their self defense, reject outside intervention and avoid introspection at any cost and so they are doomed to repeat their failures and mistakes.
Narcissists can't be alone!! They have to have a supply / victim. I was a victim for 6 years and have been free for one year! He still continues to try to have me back in hi…s life (when he is done with his next supply). When I do not respond he still does everything he can to hurt me. I am afraid that I will end up living with the torment until he either ends up in prison or dies from alcohol / drug abuse. One year free of the N.
No wonder this question hasn't been answered - it's a paradox. First off, a narcissist is unlikely to be looking at a site dedicated to narcissistic abuse. Secondly, narcissis…ts only 'love' themselves!! So look up the meaning of narcissistic abuse and you'll see the meaning of love to a narcissist.
in the beginning of a new relationship with a narcissist they will idiolize you and be everything you ever hoped for they will give you gifts n dinners n be attenitive then on…ce they have you hooked they will play their mind games and start the devaluing process which concist of verbal abusive mental games pathologic lying cheating have no empathy then discard you like you never exsisted n move onto their next victim...stay away cuz once your hooked its all over with
Charlie sheen has been thought to have narcissistic personality disorder due to his carreer in being a jackass.
Very sick and twisted things bring you happiness. The misery youcause fuels you. You envy everyone around you. You will not hearanyone tell you how you need to change. You go …from person toperson. You never can love and you must totally fake emotions andaren't able to accept actual love. It's sad way to live but theyget their fix from breaking good people down.