What would you like to do?

Do narcissists like to be famous?

already exists.

Would you like to merge this question into it?

already exists as an alternate of this question.

Would you like to make it the primary and merge this question into it?

exists and is an alternate of .


You bet they adore being famous, or even notorious. This, by far, is their predominant drive. Being famous encompasses a few important functions: it endows the narcissist with power, provides him with a constant Source of Narcissistic Supply (admiration, adoration, approval, awe) and fulfils important Ego functions. The image that the narcissist projects is hurled back at him, reflected in the eyes (or in the imagined eyes) of those exposed to the celebrity or fame of the narcissist. This way he feels alive, his very existence is affirmed and it begets a sensation of clear boundaries (where the narcissist ends and the world begins).
There is a set of narcissistic behaviours typical to the pursuit of celebrity. There is almost nothing that the narcissist refrains from doing, almost no borders that he hesitates to cross to achieve renown. To him, there is no such thing as "bad publicity" � what is important is to be in the public eye. Because the narcissist equally enjoys all types of attention and likes as much to be feared as to be loved, for instance � he doesn't mind if what is published about him is wrong ("as long as they spell his name correctly"). The only bad emotional stretches are those that are endured by the narcissist during periods of lack of attention, publicity, or exposure. The narcissist then feels empty, hollowed out, negligible, humiliated, wrathful, discriminated against, deprived, neglected, treated unjustly and so on. At first, he tries to compromise and obtain attention from ever narrowing groups of reference ("supply scale down"). But the feeling that he is compromising gnaws at his anyhow fragile self-esteem. Sooner or later, the spring bursts. The narcissist plots, contrives, plans, conspires, thinks, analyses, synthesises and does whatever else is necessary to regain the lost publicity. The more he fails to secure the attention of the target group (always the largest he can access) � the more daring, eccentric and outlandish he becomes. Firm decision is transformed into resolute action and then to a panicky pattern of attention seeking behaviours.
The narcissist is not really interested in publicity per se. Using typical conversion, displacement and projection mechanisms � the narcissist always appears to be different than he is. He appears to love himself � and, really, he abhors himself. Similarly, he appears to be interested in becoming a celebrity � and, in reality, it is the REACTIONS to his fame that interest him: people watch him, notice him, talk about him, debate his actions � therefore he exists. He goes around "hunting and collecting" how the expressions on people's faces change when they notice him. He places himself in the centre of discussions, even as a figure of controversy. He constantly and recurrently pesters those nearest and dearest to him in a bid to reassure himself that he is not losing his fame, his magic touch, the attention of members of his reference group.
Truly, the narcissist is not choosy. If he can become famous as a writer � he writes, if as a businessman � he conducts business. He switches from one field to the other with ease and without remorse because in all of them he is present without conviction, bar the conviction that he must (and deserves to) get famous. He grades activities, hobbies and people not according to the pleasure that they give him � but according to their utility: can they or can't they make him known and, if so, to what extent. The narcissist is one-track minded (not to say obsessive). His is a world of black (being unknown and deprived of attention) and white (being famous and celebrated).
Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"  My ex and I are both professional musicians that play the same instrument. When I met him I was at the top in my class, getting all sorts of work and I was highly respected. He seemed supportive of me...at first. He began a slow, insidious put-down of my talents and abilities in the form of subtle criticisms. He began to demand that I attend all of his shows to watch him play. He would tell me that he was the greatest and that he was wasting his talent in my town, also that the only reason he stayed was because of me. (Talk about a guilt trip, right?) Well, long story short, over a years time I nearly quit playing to support him and his musical goals...tsk tsk.Shame on me. I smartened up in time and kicked him to the curb.All the musicians in my circle have confessed they avoided me because of my "ego-maniac boyfriend." No one likes him anyway, it seems. I have restored my self confidence and now I play full time. I haven't heard a peep out of him!
� 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications
2 people found this useful
Thanks for the feedback!

Can a narcissist really fool people into believing he likes them and values their friendship?

That entirely depends upon the value system of the "target" of the narcissist. For the naive, loyal, trusting sorts...the answer is likely "yes." For those who effectively lea

If you are nice to a narcissist and he likes you why at times should he ignore you?

Narcissists don't see other people as humans with feelings, but as objects whose purpose it is to gratify their intense need for praise and recognition. Narcissists tend to tr

Do narcissists like to have more than one partner?

A true Narcissist wants as many partners as possible, IF all of them idolize the Narcissist. The above answer is correct they do want as many partners as possible. That way if

What is a a narcissist?

Someone who worships him or her self. everything revols around you, everythign you do is for your own good and use Narcissism is the practice of displaying (among others);- gr

Why do narcissists bend over backwards for other people but treat you like dirt?

It's called charm, deception and manipulation, only the victim can see the real "person". Walk away while you can, things don't get better, they get worse.. From my own perso

How likely is it for a child of narcissists to become a narcissist?

There are no reliable stats.     It seems to be a case of genetic predisposiiton brought out by environmental factors. For sure the almost stand alone factor is e

What is the narcissist like in his new relationship?

in the beginning of a new relationship with a narcissist they will idiolize you and be everything you ever hoped for they will give you gifts n dinners n be attenitive then on

What would the daughter of a narcissistic father be like?

  I know one and she is a lovely girl, but somewhat naive as her father is in constant denial, projects his hideous behavior onto others blames them which gives her a dist

What is wrong with a person if they keep mirroring the narcissist and making them cling like mad?

One of the main characteristics of a narcissist is that they have both an inflated ego, and poor self esteem. In other words, they are either believing, "I'm the greatest thin

What famous person has narcissistic personality disorder?

  Dictators such as Hitler, Stalin, etc. Famous people who are reputed to be or suspected of being narcissists: Pablo Picasso Charlie Chaplin Peter Sellers Joan

Is it more likely that a girl who was raped develops a narcissistic disorder later in life?

  Answer     As you must realize women that are raped have gone through the worst trauma she can go through. The act of rape is degrading and leaves the woman fe

When you ignore a narcissist do they instantly forget you kind of like out of sight out of mind?

I am qualified as a self diagnosed narcissist. If you are authentic and did not cause too much narcissitic injury it is more than possible you will just be deleted from my min