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Children who suffer from physical, sexual, emotional maltreatment or neglect are abused children. Child abuse frequently occurs at home, while less commonly in the child’s school or community. It is classified into four categories: physical, emotional and sexual abuse, and neglect.
Yes. I doubt that any judge of Family Court would buy the "only once" defense. All of the judges, social workers, etc. I have encountered stick to the "Past behavior is a true indicator of future behavior" rule.
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File parental kidnapping charges. File contempt with state. If you know where the child is being kept and the other parent isn't there you can pick up the child at the babysisters.   We had this problem with my husband's exwife, she took them to IN for a summer visit and signed papers saying …
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Protecting Child from Abusive Mother Contact your local agency that protects children. Some states call it CPS: Child Protective Serves or Department of Children and Families or Children and Youth Services or whatever your state calls it. File a complaint of suspected child endangerment or abuse;…
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It depends on the personality of the child, their level of intellect, and their strength of character. To give you an example, I'm 19 years old, good at English, arty stuff, good communicator and thinker. I'm also a competitive person. Apart from the fact that I know, from personal experience, that…
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Do not let it continue. You should contact Child Protective Services. 1-800-4-A-CHILD® (1-800-422-4453) They will probably send a social worker who is a caring, intelligent person who can and will help you. As much as you might hesitate to involve authorities in a family matter, this is impor…
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Beating is physical abuse. Cursing and berating the child is verbal and emotional abuse. These are abusive behaviors par excellence.In addition to the above, other forms of child abuse are sexual abuse and child neglect.You basicly know you get child abuse when they make you bleed or brused. My pare…
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Most children get blamed like the star of the movie: Precious. Her mom's boyfriend was raping, Precious was sexually abused and her mom didn't know. When Precious got pregnant Precious mom blamed Precious and hurt her emotionally and physically.
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I have been reading so many posts where minors want to be emancipated from their parents and although a small percentage of parents don't deserve to have children, I just don't get it this sudden urge from minors wanting to be on their own so quickly!If children think they can live at home and not l…
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How to Get Help I live in Canada, but this should work for you too. Go to "Children's Welfare". You can phone the operator and get the number, or you can go to your local Mental Health and they will direct you. In Canada 16 is still classified as a child, but I'm not sure what State you are in …
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There are no reliable stats. It seems to be a case of genetic predisposiiton brought out by environmental factors. For sure the almost stand alone factor is emotional abandonment by BOTH parents during infancy / early childhood. Some lines indicate having an N-Momster rather than an N-Dad lead…
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Get far, far away from that person. Leave the state if you have to. There are places that an abused woman can go to get help. Don't wait thinking he will change. It can only get worse. Check your area (or the info below) for a battered women's shelter near you. Ten Warning Signs of an Abusive Relat…
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Though it does not provide the abuser with a reason, justification, excuse, or anything else except in their own minds, it is possible to provoke abusive behavior in some situations. For example, if a couple is having an argument, the person who is being abused might know they should stop arguing be…
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%DETAILS%%FOLLOWUPS% Your children are likely to encounter narcissists in the future. In a way, they will be better prepared to cope with them, more alert to their existence and chicanery and more desensitized to their abuse.For this you should be grateful.There is nothing much you can do, otherw…
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%DETAILS%%FOLLOWUPS% Studies have shown time and again that a child who grows up in an abusive environment will most likely grow into an adult who will perpetuate the cycle of abuse unless he or she seeks counseling of some sort. A child needs a positive role model in most cases to demonstrate t…
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Abuse by proxy is often done by an abuser when the victim is getting stronger. The abuser begins to notice that he is losing control over the victim. Abuse by proxy is when the abuser uses people and authority figures to his advantage in order to obtain more control over you by further abuse. Here a…
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Yes, you can trust after being abused. Just not the abuser. Forgiving them sets you free, but never forget. You have to set boundaries for yourself, perhaps relearning ones that are reasonable. Among other things, people you can trust will reciprocate in kind behavior, will not take advantage of you…
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The "attempted" suicide does not indicate remorse at all. It is simply intended as emotional blackmail - to lure you back into the nightmare of the abusive relationship. IF THEY PHONE YOU SAYING THEY ARE GOING TO COMMIT SUICIDE SEND A POLICE OFFICER OR AMBULANCE TO THEIR HOUSE, HAVE NO MORE TO D…
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If you seriously think that someone is abusing their kids, report it. But before you do, remember this is a pretty serious offense to accuse someone of. You can report this without giving your name, that would probably be the best way to go. Or at least not having your name released to anyone, but a…
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The outcomes of abuse depend on numerous factors and are often not predictable. Heredity (genetics), peers, the other parent, family, teachers, society, and cultural values all play a role.   anger and rebelion are feelings i fostered, growing up with a verbally abusive alcoholic mother. The …
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Answer Unless you hit someone first, you really can't bring abuse on yourself. Answer If you have an abusive partner, any request you make - especially for intimacy - puts him in a position of superiority. He is likely to leverage this newfound supremacy and power to abuse you.
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Who is abusing who!? I think pressuring a man in his 50's to become a new father is abusive. And the child would be a bit confused when his father was older than most of his friends' grandparents.  No, it's not abuse. He was being honest with you all along. It's a tough situation, but I do not…
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You are being both psychologically and physically abused. There is nothing YOU can do to prevent the attacks because the abuser LIKES attacking you. Report this individual to law enforcement or Social Services as soon as possible. If you are a female, try to contact an abused womens organization for…
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Heck, yes that is abuse. Verbal and emotional. Be assertive and tell them that it's your life and you will do what you want with it, you're not hurting anyone. If they don't like it, then they can, well, ya know where to tell them where to go. Don't believe them. It is a form of control-don't buy …
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Answer I believe that abuse occurs when another person says or does something that makes you feel uncomfortable, and lowers your self esteem in any way, in a way that is done on purpose.
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Abusers associate love and intimacy with abusive conduct. Some of them think that abuse is proof of interest and emotional closeness!
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That depends on the form of the abuse. If he is sadistic - he gets gratification. If he is a control freak - control. If he is a narcissist - he avoids intimacy and secures narcissistic supply (some narcissistic love to be feared and hated). what it most likely looks to me is that he enjoys the c…
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Being smothered, doted upon, and spoiled are all forms of child abuse. Many of these children grow up to be abusive adults.   "Can someone who was spoiled and over protected as a child become an abuser?"No. This is crazy. How in the world did you arrive at this one?
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If it is your house you have to give no reason for her exit, unless you two have a contract. You are not responsible for someone else's situations.   As a friend, she deserves an explanation. But she has no right to more than that.
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This is a very popular question and it saddens me when I hear so much of it going on. Children's personalities are formed by their parents and those around them, so it stands to reason if a child is molested it does do psychological damage. Children just want to please adults, yet being molested a…
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Absolutely!! If the abuser thinks you are on to them and you point it out, it can escalate. Any form of abuse can. It may start with name calling, or nit picking, silent treatment, you name it. Abusers do not like their faults pointed out. They don't think they are abusing you. The minds work alot d…
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%REPLIES% Answer Something has to be the 'trigger' for any type of abuse. If the abuse has been going on for long and I suspect it has if you are considering walking away, then whatever the trigger is is probably something that will never be forgotten and unlikely to be forgiven. If violence is…
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You can't convince her - you can only enlighten her.   You cannot convince her to leave, she must be willing to do so on her own. It is the same as you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink. What you can do is show her how things are not right...although I am quite sure she…
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You may be too young to do that alone. If that is the case, please see help. I am guessing that you are underage and unable to leave home at this point. If so, please go to Children's Welfare or Mental Health in your area and lodge a complaint against your parent. This will be investigated and …
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please get out. it will get worse. this is what I had to do.   You make it a condition that he attends therapy for his deep-rooted problems as well as anger management classes.
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you sound like a wonderful and caring friend, so for starters just let him know that he can turn to you whenever he needs a friend. also it sounds like maybe youre the only one he has told? Now i am assuming or rather hoping that this is physical abuse, and NOT sexual abuse, not that one is better t…
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A WARNING If you did abuse your child, stay away, hire a good criminal defense attorney, and get psychological help. Your child needs a parent, but not enough to have to tolerate abuse. A child's rights to be free from harm, always takes precedence over any parent's rights. Defending Against Fal…
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WW2 Allies Principal Allies (alongside the US): USSR the Soviet Union) United Kingdom and the British Empire and Commonwealth countries: Australia, Canada, New Zealand, India, South Africa, etc.) Holland, Belgium, Poland, Finland, Norway. France (Free french, Resistance) …
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you have a couple of courses of action, first, you could apply for emancipation and prove you had the means to support yourself, which at 15 could be difficult, bc most places won't hire a 15 year old. you could also report to the department of human services, or whatever agency covers children, and…
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Answer You will never get a correct percentage on this because many abuses are never reported to the police. Most of the percentages come from hospital reports or doctor's reports. Parents who have children come into ER with their children suffering from anything from broken limbs to bad bruises …
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Answer A person who has been sexually abused as a child doesn't even realize the damage has already occured mentally. Either the child will keep this abuse a secret or if the family should find out it is kept secret. Either way the child usually never wins and is never sent for psychological trea…
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"Believe them understand them to find their hearts.""Abused children are going to be traumatized by adults for the rest of there lifes" You can tell them there are good people. You can help them with social skills. Etc. things like that can help. fml.  Reassure the child that it was in NO wa…
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Answer There is a legal process called "Emancipation," in which you are legally separated from your parents and allowed to live on your own. You may not be able to depend on child support from your parents and a job may not be enough. Answer It depends what you call abuse. If you are beaten or s…
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I have been abused by my husband and I have a wonderful support system. Although, we have been separated/divorced for almost 2 years now...I still think about going back and I'm not sure why. I think it has to do with the fact that I hope and wonder if he will change because I still do love him. M…
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Answer It is very difficult to confront these issues when the person responsible is not ready to do or cannot do so or plain shys away from it. I also understand the difference between knowing it mentally and actually feeling it. In my case, I blocked it all completely out of memory until i went to …
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Answer: A little Tidbit.... Listen and read all these answers...they are all right. And most of all don't be ashamed of what happened to you. I know what you are going through. There are girls all over the world in your situation. People will not criticize you about your pregnancy as you do. They wi…
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I was born two months early, and I had a very low birth weight, and was small. Beside that I was perfectly healthy. My mother however had many complications. it is very likely that the child will be very smal and probably have a lot of health problems but as long as these health problems don't kil…
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It's likely that people who are being abused in a relationship feel guilty for a variety of reasons, and could benefit from support to evalutate the sources of guilt and reasons for remaining in that relationship. Please know that NO ONE ever deserves to be abused and although it may seem difficult …
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Distinguish Between Mean and Abusive ARE YOUR PARENTS "'mean" or abusive physically, mentally or sexually. "MEAN" can be a tricky word. Do you mean limited T.V., curfew, having to do chores, not letting you do things "everyone else " is doing?; making you do your homework, no cell phone, clothes …
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yes u can some states do allow for kids under legal age to file for hardship which is a typeof "divorce " from their parents but plz talk to someone you trust to help u   Parents do not have the option of "kicking" their minor child out of the family home unless they provide financial support…
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Amazingly, some boys rise above it and grow up NOT repeating the neglect and abuse, and can maintain solid relationships. However, many boys become resentful, mad, and maladjusted as they grow into young men. They may avoid school, be physically aggressive (fight a lot), and treat people as they hav…
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Answer I wouldn't go so far as to say they would have you arrested, but hurting your little sister is not normal and you know it! They certainly can place you in an institution for psychological care. If you are asking this question, then there isn't much wrong with you with the exception you nee…
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I don't really know the statistics on verbal abuse but I do know that 90% of men who physically abuse their wives also abuse the children but I also know from experience that it is possible for him to only abuse the wife and treat the children great. Even if he is not being mean to them directly it …
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First you have to define the type of abuse and if it can at this point in time be substanitated by medical evidence or other acceptable corroboration. In general child abuse/neglect in order to investigated and action taken has to be reported at the time of the incident or reasonable time as pursua…
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Being verbally and physically abused is nothing new to me. It's been going on since I was 7, and I'm 14 now and it's still going on. I think they only abuse one of their children (usually the oldest) to have a sense of control over their life, when in reality they have none. They chose to dictate sm…
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If she is unwilling to agree to a custody modification, a motion will need to be filed with the courts, the situation will be evaluated and the court will render a decision. However, you must have compelling reasons for the court to order a change in custody. The child will not have a choice in the …
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Abusers can literally charm the pants right off you. They come on strong and appear to be loving, caring, and dote on your every whim. Many women think they have struck pay dirt. Abusers don't even realize the pattern they weave (they aren't that intelligent) but, they do. Once the woman is in love …
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It's difficult to do that. I have the same issue, but I can't move out, I don't have money to do it and I'm still in high school, unable to get a driver's license or anything. Try saving up and getting a job and means of transportation. Then pick out an apartment that you can move into, but make sur…
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what type of abuse? if it is physicall, get help immediatly!!!!!!!Do not wait,believe me on this one, the abuse gets worse and can lead to death of yourfriend. Call a womens shelter as soon as possible and help form a plan for your friend. If this is physical abuse she needs to get away now!!!Callar…
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the verbal abuse is a very serious matter for instance if a young child acidentilly spills a glass of milk a parent or both parents may start calling the child stupid and cursing and putting the child in a depressing stage feeling like sucide ,or cutting the wrists,maybe even bulling other people or…
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I'll tell you one thing don't run away that can make things worse and dangerous. Abusive homes are the worst and i wouldn't want you to stay their either if you are being beaten or verbally abused to the point when its bad call the police or 911 whatever works. Talk to someone at school or arange to…
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Often it's a way for someone who feels helpless or powerless in other aspects of his or her life to gain back a sense of control and power. They can't strike out at a person in a position of authority like their boss or a police officer, nor would a weak person like this attempt to lash out at anot…
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Domestic violence cases are most often filed against men in America due to the rarity that a women abuses a man in a domestic dispute.
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If you mean getting "custody" of your grandchildren, it depends on a lot of factors--- do the parents or gaurdians have legal custody?? Are they unfit parents?? Do you mean "visitation" rights?? First- If they are unfit and a state childrens agency is involved, and/or the children have been removed …
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If you are a minor you cannot leave home without parental consent, emancipation, or court approval. What exactly are your parents doing that you consider mental and emotional abuse? everytime i get into trouble my dad hits me and throws me against objects.
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Nothing. It is not your place to intervene. Be a good friend and let her cry on your shoulder. Advise her and stay out of it. Let her take action.   I don't agree with the answer above If the situation is serious, something needs to be done. Verbal and emotional abuse can lead to physical abu…
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Answer This is not particularly abuse or something to be labeled. The action just is really great evidence that he doesn't get the concept and has another agenda. He is talking AT you, not WITH you. Answer No, that's not abuse, that's LOVE. Re-read what you wrote -- "Is it abuse when…
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There is such a fine line regarding discipline. Some people consider spankings abuse, while others don't. Personally, I agree with spankings (not beatings) and only as a last resort. It is up to parents to prepare their children for the real world, so if we fall into the cracks of explaining our eve…
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Answer I am in exactly the same position. My father's abusive, controlling, and aggressive behavior has alienated him from all family. He has no friends, and he never has had any friends. He loves to push people into arguments. But that's not all he pushes. He is physically and verbally abusive. …
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press domestic violence charges and when it goes to cort tell the judge you want to be emancipated... you cant press charges until you get hit again...let the police take pictures of the marks then take your own pictures so you can show the judge....im sorry and good luck  go to your county co…
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Ritual abuse is methodical. It often times uses indoctrination. This is meant to break the will of someone else. Ritual abuse may be defined as abuse repeated over an long amount of time. It may include severe physical abuse and sometimes torture and killing. It may include sexual abuse which is usu…
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Yes, it is normal with some children who grow up with a verbally abusive father to think that honesty is not always if ever the best police when dealing with authority figures other than his own father because a verbally abusive father has life twisted around in his own mind. A child that is either …
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You will probably never get most people to understand because society at large is in a state of denial about the extent of child abuse. They don't want to understand.You are also probably not going to get the same sort of assistance for verbal abuse that you would get for physical or sexual abuse.Th…
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The abuser would constantly tell you how worthless you are and try to control everything that you do. They play guilt games, or yell and scream when you do nothing wrong; in order to beat you down. You could be told that you are stupid or worthless. You may asked questions like: "what good are you…
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If you're in school, I'd suggest talking to a counselor or a teacher you trust. They can offer you a safe environment and contact the people who can help you and your family. If you're not comfortable with that, you could tell a close friend, but they might not feel like they can tell their parents …
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Answer I have worked with children and young adults who have been molested, mostly counseling them, getting them professional help and being their mentor. It is probably THE most damaging thing done to a child. Many times the molester is someone they trust, so they have a hard time trusting ANYON…
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talk to someone you can trust, like a teacher or another adult family member
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Answer To be sure what is going on put a recording device in the room, either a nanny cam or even a cheap cassette recorder that records when noise is present. And if you are at home at night get a baby monitor and hide it under her bed. You can find any of these things very cheap and it will…
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Act on your wisdom and go with your feelings of judgement, but remembering 'you' are responsible for serving the needs and rights of your child. You have to take this carefully, you don't want to upset her. You need to establish a relaxed conversation with her first, maybe about school and friends.…
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Liable for what? You can't really sue for damages unless you prove harm was inflicted on the child as a direct result of not discussing the child's progess with you. If the school was acting within court orders with reasonable caution because of the nature of the accusations, you'd have little groun…
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Depends if they are clothed or not.
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verbal abuse of a 13-year-old. A 13-year-old should have the intelligence to decide as to whether they are being abused or not. As to whether they take someoneone into their confidence is something else entirely. In cases such as these, it is usually best for the boy to talk to a close friend, po…
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I'm getting from the question is that the poster is not being abused, but simply wants to know if abuse is a requirement for being emancipated...is that correct? No, abuse is not a requirement for emancipation, nor is it a guarantee that emancipation will be granted, because the minor still has to m…
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Spousal abuse is two people living together and it doesn't matter if they are married or not and they are verbally or physically attacked by their partner. It just isn't men that can be abusive, but woman as well.MENTAL ABUSE: Calling the victim names. Criticizing their every move. Demeaning them in…
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Talking to an Adult about Abuse Unfortunately, there isn't an easy way. You just have to say that you need to talk about something and "is there a place to go where we won't be disturbed"? They will understand. I agree when I first learned that my child was being molested, I was devastated. How…
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If I were in that position, I would tell them to report it immediately! I would tell them, if they don't, I will. That person's life and/or well-being may actually be in danger. After reading the answer below, I have to echo the sentiment to give reassurance that this is not their fault that this …
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Answer Do the appropriate things, such as call the police, make sure that the workplace is secure (that he cannot walk into your office) and, possibly drive different routes home to avoid him. Most importantly, you and your child should not stay with him any longer. This is probably the hardest p…
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Take her away from the environment. Find a shelter of friend that you can go to. If you need, you can get a court order to stop contact between father and daughter, but this is expensive and his instability needs to be proven. Has he hurt anyone before? This will be in your favor if you can prove …
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Answer His behavior is professionally unethical and he should be reported to both the police and the directors of the hospital/clinic where he is employed. Regardless of any legal outcome, do not go to this doctor ever again for anything. If you are under the age of 18, you should notify your pa…
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In south Fl a family made a child wash her mouth out with soap, she had a reaction and had to be taken to the hostpital, when the doctors asked what happend the mother told him the whole story; abouth the soap. the cops were called and now both perents are facing ten years in prison. Another Answer…
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Its you, who is supposed to decide. If you feel very wrong you shout move (only if your an adult) but if it is that they want you to do something good and that's why you want to move, then you are not supposed to.
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In short, abuse is any action that disrespects another's request to stop. Dictionary.com states that abuse is: To use wrongly or improperly; misuse: abuse alcohol; abuse a privilege. To hurt or injure by maltreatment; ill-use. To force sexual activity on; rape or molest. To assail with contemptuou…
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Actually, Social Services only has jurisdiction if, and only if, a new complaint of abuse or neglect is made. They may investigate only that allegation. They may review past convictions, but since those past convictions rarely have anything to do with new allegation, cannot use this to make determin…
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Answer You have to be really serious and tell him what you think.Don't hold back in this matter. I think so too. but if that doesn't work, just kill his girlfriend. That one will always work.
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Being an only child. Here is the lists of pros and cons. Pro:~three words: peace and quiet~No sharing with other siblings~More privacy~Your own bedroom (though some kids with siblings get that benefit)~100% of your parents attention, undivided love~No conflicting schedules (your parents don't have …
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Abused minor wanting emancipationHow old is the minor? Abused in what way? No child should be abused. If a minor is truly being abused they should go to someone they trust and explain what is happening. You have to prove you are being abused. If there is proof, you can be placed with relatives if th…
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Tell her to quit it before you call the Department of Social Security on her behind. Then if she doesn't listen, make sure you follow through. They'll put a stop to that crap real quick.
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There is no surefire way an outsider can tell what has occured between the siblings, outside of asking both of them what the problem is.Even if there has been abuse, both victim and perpatrator may deny the allegation. If other people truly believe or have evidence that abuse has been going on, keep…
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People bully because they are trying to be cool. Bullies think that by hurting someone else that it will make them more popular at school. Bullies can bully in many ways but bully victims need to open up to an adult to try and solve the problem. If you have been bullied or are being bullied don't be…
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Love can carry much weight on its shoulders. This is not something that can be answered by moving out. If he loves you and you love him as much as you think then finish the life you started in high school, graduate and then move in together when you both have decent jobs to take care of all your fin…
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