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I have been a cuckold for come 15 years now, so I think I can answer this, at least from the POV of a male cuckold.
First, listen to her and make sure that whatever happens is what she wants and isn't you topping from below by driving her to sex she is only doing for your benefit.
Second, be at all times reassuring and supportive regarding her affairs. The topsy turvy emotions you get a thrill from can be very uncomfortable and stress inducing for her. You need to make sure she knows that you are planted and will never leave her over this. That she is free and their are no consequences from you in terms of recriminations or resentments.
Third, always be on her side. She may have some issues with the other men, or with friends. You need to be the one friend who is always on her side and just wants her to be happy.
Fourth, always remember it is about her needs. She loves you, so she'll attend to you desires a bit if you clearly communicate them (no whining - just loving info sharing.) But don't make it about you getting off. Don't insist on things like you watching or her giving you blow-by-blows afterwards, etc. You can let her know you like that or want to try it, but leave it to her. You are satisfied just with her enjoying it and being happy. If you think about it, you aren't making her happy by insisting she attend to your orgasm when she has come home spent and tired. Keep her first at all times and it will rebound to your benefit over time.
I can say from my own life that if you do these things, you are much more likely to be cuckolded and to maintain that relationship for a long time.
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∙ 11y agoAs a 12 year cuckold myself, I recommend the following steps:
- Talk to her. Only by sharing your fantasy can you hope to realize and benefit from it. Give her the permission and the power.
- Find out her fantasies too - this is not a one way conversation.
- Let her know she may act on her pass at any time. Discuss groundrules and her fears to make her comfortable. Be supportive, but not pushy.
- Take every opportunity to ensure her, through actions as well as words, that you are committed to her and the relationship and it will not be endangered by her extramarital sex. A key reason women resist cuckolding is the fear that the reality will be different for the husband than the fantasy and she will ruin the good thing she already has and alienate the man she loves.
- Be patient. It may take her some time to feel comfortable.
- Don't set too many rules. You want her to be comfortable and that might be hard if you insist on being there or on hearing all the details or whatever. Go slow. Get her doing it first.
Do all this and you will increase your chances that she will. Everyone is hot for someone new at some point. What holds them back is there conscience. They want to be fair to you. They don't want to risk what they have. They don't want to think bad of themselves for violating their own principles. All you can do is make her more comfortable with the fair to you and the risk factor.
She may still not want to risk (health fears, worry it will "get out," etc.) and she may not ever feel comfortable in her own self. But you can't control that. (Or want to. If acting it out would make her feel negative about herself, you wouldn't want that anyway.)
Good luck.
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Their wives. Seriously, it depends on what you mean by cuckold. If you mean the simple definition of a man with an unfaithful partner, it could be many things. If you mean "what makes a man a cuckold fetishist," then fetich is an eroticization of deep-eseated fears and in the case of cuckolding the fear being eroticized is that of being rejected or snubbed in the evolutionary and social competition for a partner. Such a fear can be the result of trauma or of an accumulation of small things, but either way usually traces back to experiences in the formative childhood years. Basically, the fear touches such a strong nerve that the brain has paired it with sexual excitement in order to protect itself from being paralyzed. When the fear is engaged, the brain released feel-good sex hormones to keep from crashing like a computer. The man in question learns that he can trigger those sexual feelings by accessing the fear and so begins a cycle of association. In some cases the cuckold fears may be a bit different. For instance, their are some humiliation fetishists who gravitate towards cuckolding because of its extreme humiliation value.
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How do you use cuckold in a sentence?
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Could you give a sentence using the word cuckold?
red cuckold isn't blue
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What did the Elizabethans believe a cuckold was?
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What is the opposite of cuckold?
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How to pronounce cuckold?
Kuh-cold
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