How do I end my long term relationship?

Answer 1

There is no easy way, but the best way is to be 1)brave and face the confrontation 2)kind- tell the person face to face.

Be ready with what you want to say.
There is no need to lie but there is no need to be hurtful either. Yes, it will be awkward and difficult, but it will make the following few weeks so much easier for that person- a phone call (or if you are really cowardly and mean, a text) will leave them with unanswered questions, confusion and ultimately for you, further recriminations if they do not feel they have had a chance to put their side/be heard.
Imagine yourself in their shoes, and treat them as you would hope to be treated yourself.

Dont do it in a busy public place, but a neutral quiet space might help. if you have to be at home, have a plan for the weekend, somewhere to go so you both can get some space straight away, but only after you have had plenty of time to talk it through- its fairer to the person you are splitting from.

Be sure you really want to do this!

Do give them and you plenty of time with no contact afterward- too soon and you will confuse them and yourself as to whetheryou made theright decision.

Dont jump into a new serious relationship too quickly- even if there is someone else involved, be a bit low key for a while to clear your head. Friends and family are invaluable!

Everyone has been dumped, everyone has had to let someone go- we all get over it in the end. yes, that person will be hurt, but in a matter of time, they will get over it. Just be prepared that when they do, and find someone new, you may feel a pang of jealousy yourself.

good luck.