How can you get a narcissist to tell the truth?

Answer 1

my belief is that you simply can't ...

you can tell when he's lying with body language.

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Answer 2

With no emotion in your voice what so ever ! Use very few words and do not under any circumstances ask any questions about what is going on in their lives. Act aloof and indifferent do not chase them, this will only puff up their ego even more. Have as little contact with them and avoid them like the plague. That is how you handle and talk to a narc. Believe me I've been in 'recovery' for a long time. He still occasionally pops back into my life.

Answer 3

Here is the way this thing looks: How can an apparition show itself, if it has no self? That is the answer. The narcissist has no self, no sense of who he is. There are no core values, no code ethics, an empty shell. Is this clearer now? To experience a narcissist, to feel for a narcissist, to put faith in a narcissist, is one life lesson you will not forget. NO- Emphatically! This is a person who will lie to gain whatever he needs to feed his supply source of endless need. The need of unconditional love, admiration, kudos, adoration, approval, applause, more, more, more. Then, you? You are his supply. You are a mirror on the wall; meant only to show him his perfect image. You ? You are gone because he will suck the life out of you. That man who so charmed you, loved you,cherished and adored you, now finds no value in you, and he is gone. Truth, no truth. The most consumate of actors. He will tell you he has been faithfull always, when he has never. He will lie, over, and over, he cares nothing for your tears. He has no empathy. This I tell you.. 1.) -RUN-NOW-DON'T-LOOK-BACK-EVER-KNOW HIM WELL THROUGH THE MISTAKE OF OTHERS LIKE ME. 2.)-DON'T PUT FAITH IN OPINIONS OF HIM MADE BY OTHERS. HE IS CHARMING AND CAN BE VERY PERSUASIVE. 3.)-DON'T WORK ON ASSUMPTION- THE BEST PSYCHIATRISTS HAVE DIFFICULTY WITH THIS DIAGNOSIS, AND THEY HAVE TOOLS-SUCH AS-THE A.P.A. BIBLE- DSM IV [Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders]4.)-WRITE IT DOWN. NOW, GO WRITE DOWN EACH AND EVERY FAULT, YOU KNOW HE HAS MANY. LIST ALL THE INCONSISTANT BEHAVIOR, THE LIES YOU'RE AWARE OF. HIS JEALOSY(DON'T BE FLATTERED BY IT, YOU'RE AN OBJECT) HIS EMPTY CORE THAT CAN'T BE FILLED. 5.)-HIS HIGHS AND HIS LOWS, WILL SUCK THE LIFE OUT OF YOU. 6.) IF YOU HAVE TO THINK OF THE INCEPTION OF THIS RELATIONSHIP-HIS INTENSE NEED OF YOU? THEN REMEMBER IT WAS A PLOY; MEANT ONLY TO LURE YOU, GAIN YOUR APPROVAL, AND THEN ASAULT YOU WITH HIS DARK SIDE. 7.) IF YOU STAY WITH HIM UNDERSTAND THIS; YOU WON'T SURVIVE WITHOUT STRONG SUPPORT AND COUNSELING. YOU WON'T CHANGE HIM. AND NO, HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU-NO. I DON'T WISH TO HURT YOU, I CAN IMAGINE YOUR PAIN. I KNOW YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO LEAVE, EVEN IF YOU THINK NOT.References DSM-IV-TR Handbook of Differential Diagnosis

M.D., First, Michael B. , M.D., Frances, Allen , M.D., Pincus, Harold Alan

American Psychiatric Publishing, Inc. (2002)

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Arlington, VA 22209-3901 Malignant self Love Ph.D. Vaknin, Sam (2007)

Answer 4

Getting the truth from a sociopath can be a trick. Depending on the way to sociopath functions, the person could easily be lying for no logical reason. However, this is often not the case, particularly with high-functioning sociopaths. I am one of these. When I was younger, I would lie to get out of trouble or to get what I wanted. I lie for similar reasons now, but instead of getting out of trouble, it's to maintain an image. This potentially means that I get myself into trouble by taking the blame for something I didn't do.

But I digress. Most sociopaths, and I would think the rest of the human race as well, will not lie if 1) they are given a logical and/or beneficial reason not to and 2) if they have no logical and/or beneficial reason to. Logical and beneficial may have a different meaning from what is typically believed to be logical and beneficial. Logical means thinking like a computer, with no emotion clouding thought process, short of wants which drive the need for logical reasoning in many cases to begin with. I would suggest looking up the definition for game theory, as this is essentially the way a sociopath sees things, if a little more complex.

Beneficial means whatever benefits the sociopath, and this is difficult to determine. Sociopaths share the commonality of getting what they want through various methods, primarily manipulation. However, they do not share the same wants. For example, my highest want, or need if you will (I become withdrawn and bored if I do not get it), is socializing with "moldable" people, such as the stereotypical diva or drama queen whose opinions are shaped by the smallest comments (saying "I like that color on you" means an immediate trip to the mall for clothes of that color; likewise, saying "I trust you" means they feel needed and wanted and are often therefore more likely to go out of their way to help to maintain your feeling of "need" for that person). By contrast, my friend, who is a moderate sociopath, has a need for his opinion to be agreed with and believed, and he will make up statistics on the spot (always within range of a believable number) to achieve this.

Answer 5

A narcisist simple is way to 'full of themselves'. They think they are perfectly right all the time, there for you realy cannot get them to tell the truth. It's way most people call a losing battle. So you may just have to let them keep lieing or just not hang around with them if it bothers you that they lie.

Answer 6

This is not gonna happen.