I know your pain. My mother's husband during my childhood and teen years was sociopathic. My best advice is to hide as often and possible and look for a good boarding school. Many states have publicly-funded boarding schools for students who are gifted in certain areas. That's what I did. Other than that, just pray for college to come soon!
By leaving. Narcissists don't want to change so what ever you do to try to deal with them or the situation will be just play a part of the predator game of cat and mouse, using and abusing you and burning you out.
Sociopaths
A sociopath is defined as an individual with apsychopathic personality - whose behaviour may often be antisocial or even criminal. A sociopath also lacks a sense of moral responsibility and/or social conscience.
Very often, sociopaths can become very controlling in relationships. Dictating what the other partner wears, who the partner can be friends with, what the partner does in their spare time and so on. In many cases, the control can escalate into domestic violence.
Many sociopaths are very quick to marry their partner. They usually marry because:
Recognising sociopaths
Sociopaths are very good at lying and claim that their word is always correct and that everything is "their right". They also show a lack of remorse or guilt and have shallow emotions. They can be secretive and paranoid, keeping things to themselves while constantly accusingothersof things.
They show a lack of empathy towards others, particularly when someone is hurt. Some sociopaths (not all) may burst into laugher when they witness someone being hurt. Somepsychologicalreports seem to suggest that sociopaths may also be risky gamblers, often losing large sums of money in casinos or online gambling websites.
Many sociopaths were "criminal children", or juveniles - committing crime at an early age, particularly car theft, joy riding, mugging, burglary, assaulting police, unprovoked violence and disregard for public safety. Some are also known to have been or be cruel to animals.
Sociopaths also show signs of increased sexual infidelity. Unusually demanding constant sex. During sexual intercourse, sociopaths tend to be violent and rough with their partners, sometimes staging a rape role-play. In extreme cases, sociopaths decide role-playing rape isn't enough.
You
If you want to try and keep your marriage to a sociopath (I personally don't recommend you do), then your partner will need large amounts of counselling.
One thing you need to be aware of - nothing is your fault. Even if your sociopath partner claims you are to "blame" - you are not. It's common for sociopaths to blame everyone but themselves.
You probably feel drained. Emotionally on edge. Exhausted. Weak. Scared. You probably feel a great deal of love for your partner, despite his/her sociopathic ways.
This is what a psychopath relies on, to keep you under their wing. Your own fear and love is the only weapon they have against you.
If your partner is not violent, you can suggest a counselling session, maybe marriage counselling. Your partner needs to see a professional in order to deal with the underlying issues that are causing him/her to be sociopathic. It's not something you can fix yourself,unfortunately.
Look at it as a giant complex computer with millions of wires connected to it. Some of those wires are loose or plugged in the wrong places. That computer is the mind of a sociopath.
So,unfortunatelythe only way to try and salvage the marriage is to get the partner to see a professionalcounsellor.
Children
If you have children, I thoroughly do not recommend sticking around with your partner, for their sake. Children, when they witness violence, tend to imitate what they have seen upon other people. Their constant worry for you will also negatively affect their education.
Also, if one of the children speak out to a teacher, in order to try and save you (because they love you), by law, the teacher has to report such things to theauthorities,to protect the children. This can result in the local government placing the children in protective care.
Escape
My personal advice andtheadvice of millions of people who were once in your position is to forget the marriage. A marriage is about loving and caring for one another. Not control, hurt and violence. Nobody should be scared of their own partner.
The feelings of love you are feeling is probably being caused by a natural psychological repressing effect to protect you, similar to Stockholm Syndrome (a condition in which kidnapvictimsdevelop love and feelings for their captor).
The fact is, you do deserve better than being controlled and potentially being a target for physical and sexual violence.
Escaping from a sociopathic marriage takes very careful planning.
Taken from various sources fromsurvivorsaccounts here is some advice to help you plan your escape:
You are not alone. There are allies on your side, including the most powerful one you can get - the law. Good luck.
You don't.
You see a tough lawyer and get out.
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Confessions of a Sociopathic Social Climber was created in 2005.
Sociopathic
The only reason your spouse would have to interact with the woman he had an affair with is if they are in a workplace environment and unfortunately, there is nothing much you can do about this, but to tell your husband if he slips one more time you are filing for divorce.
Unless a psychiatrist/psychologist has deemed this person as being of no harm to the children unsupervised then that's the way it has to be. If the courts thought otherwise then your spouse wouldn't get to see the children unsupervised.
1000 sociopathic ones.
well i have a step dad who is bipolar. i mostly just leave him be when he gets too mad or what not. then he ends up mellowing out and its all good... but what specifically do you want to know about "how to cope"? like, what problem do you have? that would be a better question and would be easier for me to help you...
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From my limited understanding, not really. Sociopathic behavior can be identified at an early age. If the child does not "outgrow" these behaviors by 15-16yrs of age, then they can be labeled as having an antisocial personality problem or a sociopath.
One example of a politician who has been described as exhibiting sociopathic traits is Adolf Hitler. His extreme violence, manipulation, and disregard for the lives of others are characteristic of sociopathic behavior.
Kit Cope's birth name is Kristopher Cope.
The important thing to remember about midlife crisis is that it's tied to midlife transition. Life changes are often an end result. A spouse must be prepared for possible major changes.