How long does it take a stalker to leave you alone and move on to his next victim?

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Stalkers seldom give up. They will continue to harass the person and make their life as miserable as possible. Some victims can get away by moving away, but only a few are successful. Some people are more obsessed and will follow a person around because they can't bare to lose them, but real stalkers are very dangerous. They can threaten you, make trouble for you at work or with your friends and family and can threaten to harm your family and friends if you don't cooperate. If you, or anyone you know is being stalked then it's time to get a detective to catch this person in the act and then let the police handle it. When I was single I was working at a plant, in the office. I began to get threatening phone calls right at work (not at my home) and the person threatened me with rape. When I refused to talk to them and hung up it infuriated them and the next two calls were much more serious. They threatened to cut my throat and that of my brothers. I have no idea how this person knew I had a brother. I immediately went to Management and the police were brought in. I had to write word-for-word what the stalker had said, and for 3 months I was lucky enough to have two detectives see me too and from work and check my apartment out before I entered it. The fearful thing of it all was I had no idea who it was so every man in that company was suspicious to me. It was a terrible way to live. The truckers were kind enough to offer to drive me too and from work, but I couldn't even trust them. The police never did catch the stalker, but had a hunch it was a certain man the plant, but couldn't prove it. Why this person decided to pick on me was beyond my comprehension. As soon as the police were brought into it the stalker stopped calling me. Still, for many months after I was terrified and was very aware of my surroundings. Marcy Stalkers and the Borderline Personality The Borderline Personality In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are: a shaky sense of identity sudden, violent outbursts oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection brief, turbulent love affairs frequent periods of intense depression eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood. The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions. The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors. The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc. Stalkers dont stop If he/she follows u around then tell the police If he/she broke into some account or something, change the password Happytreefriendlover