What do you say to a boy that calls you a stalker?

Answer 1

"stalkers" are human beings. They are people who have incredibly low self esteem and low self worth.

Experiences in childhood have formed dysfunctional and toxic views about what defines a relationship between two people.

A lot of people assume that stalking is a behaviour that exists of its own - not true. Stalking is a result of someone who has an incredible loneliness at heart. They have not been able to connect emotionally with anyone in their lives because of abusive and disruptive experiences in childhood.

That loneliness has become fear and a fear of never being loved or valued.

There is one sentence that is sure to overcome stalking and behaviours too. Never reject or try to shut out someone who displays stalking behaviour. By being mean or unpleasant you are reinforcing their views about themselves and relationships in general.

The greatest cure to stalking is kindness and human empathy. It takes two to have a war so end your side of the war and reach out to someone who needs your help. Tell them you are a friend and that you aren't afraid or concerned and understand that life is hard and unfair.

Make them a coffee or tea - tell them they are welcome to come any time. Guess what? you've just ended "stalking behaviour" and perhaps shown someone the first kindness they have experienced within their lives.

It is the world that creates stalking behaviour and they are victims just as much as those they victimize.

You can of course physically remove them from your life by calling the police - but that only works if you believe the police are competent and consistent and ready to help you. This isn't always the case and by involving authority you most certainly will have ramped up the sheer terror of abandonment and rejection within the person who is displaying stalking behaviour.

So - the choice is yours. But it's the world and many unhappy childhood experiences that create stalking behaviour - rather different from the one dimensional and incorrect reporting by media and "journalists".

Answer 2

If you are being stalked then you need to tell your parents or an adult at your school (if you are not yet an adult) and/or call the police.

Stalking is against the law and you should not have to suffer it

Answer 3

• The police recommend you say nothing to your stalker at this will agitate your stalker more. The best you can do is get a restraining order against this person although it is hardly worth the paper it is written on. The other alternative you have (if you can afford it) is to have a detective follow your stalker! This way you will get more evidence that can go to court. If your stalker emails you then keep the emails. If your stalker phones you tape the call for evidence. Do not speak to your stalker no matter what they say.

Answer 4

You can say as many things as you like. Like thank you i know that or anything. Stalking is bad and you should end it.

Answer 5

Report it to the authorities.

Answer 6

Ignore it.