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Narcissism is a psychological condition defined as a total obsession with self, to the exclusion of almost all other interaction with people. Narcissism is often characterized by a lack of empathy for others, an immature sense of humor, sadistic or destructive tendencies towards other people, and a compulsion to satisfy personal needs without regard for others. People suffering from narcissism can be extremely introverted in social situations, tending to avoid deep friendships or commitments to career or family.
According to a common psychological model used by psychoanalysts, almost all humans begin life with some degree of narcissism. After all, in a baby's world he or she is the most important creature alive, followed closely by the supportive giants known as parents. A baby or toddler has a significant number of physical and emotional needs, all of which should be addressed by the people surrounding him or her. This is how the world works, according to a two-year old child. Eventually, a healthy child will learn that the world is bigger than he or she is, and parents will not always satisfy selfish needs. Failure to learn this fact can lead to a condition called primary narcissism.
Early childhood or primary narcissism is thought to be part of the natural growth process, as children focus their energy and attention away from parents and towards an ever increasing subject/object world. If the child experiences a severe disappointment or senses abandonment, he or she may regress to the primary narcissism stage as a defense mechanism. For parents, this could mean a return to baby talk or demanding behavior until the child finds a way to deal with the traumatic blow to his or her self-worth. Hopefully, the child will learn to live with life's disappointments and grow into a responsible adult. For some people, however, an early lifetime of rejection by others can create secondary narcissism during adulthood.
It is this secondary narcissism which may be diagnosed as narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissism is primarily a defense mechanism, albeit with some socially damaging side effects for the sufferer. A narcissistic adult faced with the pressures of career, family and social interaction can literally implode psychologically, retreating to childhood behaviors such as primary narcissism.
The feelings of others no longer matter to a narcissistic personality. Other people simply live to serve, much like the role filled by parents during early childhood. When family members, co-workers, subordinates or friends fail to satisfy his or her needs, a true narcissist will most likely detach from them emotionally and become even more self-absorbed. Narcissism as a personality disorder can be treated through psychotherapy, but many sufferers prefer to remain undiagnosed. <a id="narcissism" href="http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-narcissism.htm#il">View Source</a>
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Why would ex-narcassist contact you?
mind game and control over you
Is it possible a narcassist father will physically hurt your daughter she is 18 years old?
Yes, especially when no one is looking. Narcissist love hurting others.
How do you make a narcassist be kind?
You can't. If a person is a true narcissist, you can't 'make' them behave otherwise. Narcissism can only be modified by a professional and then only if the narcissist is motivated to try.
If you ignore a narcissist will he continue to try to contact you?
No he will leave you alone, you are of no use to him now the best way to get rid of a narcassist is to cut all ties from them they bore when you don't play their game and will look for their next victim to destroy.
Will your ex narcassist bother you and his unborn child if you ignore him?
He may however, it depends where he is leading himself as whatever is important to him at that point will be what goes and if you are an ex he may just not be interested and ignore you back. Hard to pick a mind of such a magnitude.
Are female Narcissists harder to expose and diagnose?
Actually I find them far easier to detect than narcissism in men because most women are far more verbal than men. Thus, talking to a female narcassist is easily spotted. Marcy
How do you get your narcassist girl back after you confronted them about their lies and broke up?
I assume by your use of the word "them," you don't mean narcissist, but multiple-personality disorder. Simply tell whichever personality is the most understanding that you'd like to give her (and the rest of the personalities) a second chance.
If a narcissist requires adoration admiration approval affirmation etc why do they not like to be told they are loved and be spoiled?
From my experience narcassists dont like feeling like their spoilt because they always want to feel like they are and can give more than you, with my ex narcassist if I gave him a wonderful present and everyone told him how how lucky he was he would say yes but I gave her such in such, because this meant that the attention was being taken away from his and given to me, the narcassist always wants all the attention. Works the same way with love no matter how much I told him I loved him he always said and told everyone that he loved me more, its their way of having to win all the time. Deep down I think the actually dont"t believe that the deserve to be loved or spoilt.
Can you change a narcassist?
A narcissist would not want help because he or she would not think there was anything wrong. Therefore, you can't help a narcissist; even when a narcissist is court ordered into therapy, there is little a professional can do to help a person change this personality type.
Why will a 'nice' guy humiliate and treat the woman he is attracted to insensitively yet the women he is not attracted to are brilliant and marvelous?
Abuser classify women into groups in a very peculiar manner. They also equate intimacy with abuse.AnswerHe is threatened. He likes attention, but does not like confrontation. He is frightened by real emotional connection, but claims that is what he needs the most. The very attributes that attracted him to you have now become liabilities. Narcissist's have huge ego's, and low self esteem. They are deep down, ashamed, insecure, and then the pathological lying starts. He is very aware of your "achilles heel" ....and will exploit you at every turn, in order to feel superior. He relates in a very odd way, to inferiors, or similar outcasts, as he views himself. He is not comfortable, with others who have intergrated personalities. AnswerHe is 12...either actually or emotionally, and terrified of being rejected and humiliated. If this isn't the case, then he isn't attracted to the person in the subject, just found someone he could treat like dirt and have them stick around.P.S. Narcassist's are not ashamed, insecure or any of that. Narcassist's have almost unshakable self confidence and selfishness, they don't need to feel superior, they just do. And there is no connection between narcassism and lying.
Do victims begin behaving similarly to their narcissistic abusers?
Yes sometimes. The victim may become so insulted and angry by all the manipulation that he/she may try to "outsmart" the narcassist. It ends up backfiring as narcassists always store information in their minds of any precieved slights and will retreat and some back full force. They do this to show you who is boss. They also may do this in a way that leaves you baffled cause you never saw it comin or thought they would never be so cruel. Its called "Psycological Warfare". The victim loses. Best thing to do is leave.
How do you get your narcassist girlfriend back?
First, you need to ask yourself why would you want her back? It's probably the reason you two broke up. And if she is a narcissist, people like that don't usually change. Especially if it's for someone else. For that type of person, it will always be about them. What they want, what they need, how they feel etc... Are you really ok with being an afterthought, second best, the chaser instead of the chasee? Think about it. You deserve better and there is better out there! Find her! ANSWER 2 If you're asking this question then you havent learned. you want her back tell her you adore her and that its ok if she cheats on you at any time. tell her she can use you, lie to you and basically abuse and dump you at will. That may do it.
