Specifically Proverbs 13:24
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see also Proverbs 19:18, 22:15, 29:15, 23:13-14
For anyone wishing an answer that doesn't require them to take out the family bible, I will point out that the rod in question is the one that is used to beat children who misbehave. It was believed, by those who make that statement, that if children are not violently punished, they will become bad children, who cannot be controlled and will be horribly inconsiderate.
This verse is from Proverbs 13:24
Spare the cane spoil the child means if you don't disapline your child then your spoiling them
The Bible phrase is actually: "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes (diligently)."
The Hebrew word was shiavet, which means scepter or authority. If you choose scepter in your translation, you can then consider that scepter is a big stick (rod) and leave it at that. If "authority" is what was meant, then the conclusion is different.
It means, we all need reproof, correction and discipline.
"He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him." (Prov.13:24 NIV)
"PROVERBS 13... [verse] 24. He acts as if he hated his child, who, by false indulgence, permits sinful habits to gather strength, which will bring sorrow here, and misery hereafter." (Matthew Henry's Concise Commentary)
This saying is based on several Proverbs from the Bible for example:
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him.
So spare the rod and spoil the child means if you don't correct your child your child will grow up undisciplined, foolish.
For years Dr. Benjamin Spock encouraged parents to be permissive. After living to see a generation of bratty, pesky children, he admitted that he had been wrong. He said, "Inability to be firm is, to my mind, the commonest problem of parents in America today." He placed the blame, at least in part, on the experts-"the child psychiatrists, psychologists, teachers, social workers, and pediatricians, like myself."
The parent who genuinely loves his child does not condone naughtiness, but disciplines the child promptly.
"Spare the rod and spoil the child" is not a direct quote, but an axiom based on biblical teachings such as the following:
Proverbs 22:15 - Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him.
Proverbs 23:13, 14 - Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod, And deliver his soul from hell.
Proverbs 29:15 - The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
[Quotes from the NKJV]
The phrase "spare the rod and spoil the child" is often incorrectly attributed to the Christian Bible. It does not appear there. It was first written in a poem by Samuel Butler in 1664.
It means if you dont beat youre child, the child will grow arrogant and not listen to you, thus you are effectively spoiling him/her.
samuel butler
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Spare the cane spoil the child means if you don't disapline your child then your spoiling them The Bible phrase is actually: "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes (diligently)." The Hebrew word was shiavet, which means scepter or authority. If you choose scepter in your translation, you can then consider that scepter is a big stick (rod) and leave it at that. If "authority" is what was meant, then the conclusion is different.
In the book proverb it says do not spare the rod and spoil the king.
Prov:13:24: He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Refuse to discipline your child,and he will be spoiled--good for nothing.For the love that you have for your child,discipline him so that he will be useful,and healthy.
The verse is worded differently in the King James versionPro 13:24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
Children need love, affection and care for a healthy childhood. 'Spare a rod and spoil your child' is a proverb no where to be heard now!
There are two different schools of thought on this subject. The modern social belief is that it is a form of child abuse that stifles development. The Old School remains convinced that "To spare the rod, spoil the child."
"Spare the rod, spoil the child" isn't a Bible quote. The best we can come up with is: "He that spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes." (Prov.13:24) "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." (Prov.22:15) "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with a rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with a rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell." (Prov.23:13-14) "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame." (Prov.29:15) "Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul." (Prov.29:17)