What would you like to do?
- He probably wants to call and contact you but absolutely will not crumble and make the first move.
- He has another source of supply and doesn't need you as a source any longer (especially since you have become a source of narcissistic injury - negative supply). There are many types of sources of narcissistic supply - females are only one of them. Career, material possessions, celebrity, friends, even pets - are ample sources of supply.
- Narcissists are very difficult to "know" and to predict - unless you have spent the big part of your life studying them and their victims. That's precisely why they have a constant supply of victims - they are "not fully human" and thus not fully knowable.
- A narcissist would let you ignore them because they do not want you anymore. It is hard for them to actually let go of you forever so expect a phone call etc six months later but act nonchalant - if you let on that you still may love them then they know that they can use you when they feel like it.
- Many reasons. Could be he has found another victim. Could be he wants you to beg and is showing you that you ignoring him does not bother him. Remember these types are about control cause they know they are useless. Could be he is trying to figure out what would bother you and its working.
- The remark above about how he could be hoping you beg him really resonates with my experience. Some of these people play a very hard game and are willing to wait, especially if they have some other source of supply currently going on. And they always have alternative sources ready. The new source may not be in your category; i.e., could be a new activity, and new lover of a different sexual orientation and therefore exciting (also dangerous), involvement in professional goals, etc. Maybe he wants you to be "on the shelf" but still available if/when he wants you. I understand that is often their behavior. Be alert and don't be surprised if he contacts you when you are not expecting it. Have your attitude ready and be primed to slide out of this thing again--he'll be even more hurtful and dangerous next time.
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I think that even though the narcissist knows that you care for them, they can't help but sabatoge a potentially good and healthy relationship with someone who is trustw…orthy because they are not comfortable with a stable, secure person. They are more comfortable and "at home" with someone who is sure to betray and reject them. Answer Narcissists don't care if you still need THEM -- its whether or not they still need YOU or not. Narcissists feed off of people and get what they want and move on to the next victim. They rarely care who they've left behind or damaged. A friend of mine was involved with a Narcissist. My friend is tall, blonde, attractive and intelligent. Men fall all over her. She's a real catch. The Narcissist used her and moved on even though she really loved him and treated him like a king. Go figure. She was stunned and hurt. So was everyone else. Especially guys who'd tried to win her over and "lost" her to this Narcissist moron. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG so if you're asking yourself why you didn't do more or love this person more, etc., STOP. Narcissists only care about what they can get, who they can control and what's in it for them. You just happened to be there. You deserve better. I can only tell you what I've seen and it goes something like this: The narcissist almost works on making sure you DO adore him and then, it's boring whilst at the same time giving him the perfect ego trip to let you go. YOU were devestated over him. HE got over you long long time ago, if he was really into you (or anyone else) at all. I've seen a narcissist laugh at the thought that he's about to walk out of (and he did) of a relationship whilst telling me that she was madly in love with him. The thought that you would go nuts over him when he leaves you (and most do) gives him pleasure. Once they've had their supply it's see ya later but always when it suits them, which is mostly when you're in love or committed. That makes it all the more pleasurable for them. It takes time to accept and heal from this because quite frankly it's so damaging. So take your're time and allow how your feel come to the surface otherwise the healing process may take years and years.
How would a narcissist abuser react when he ignored you for a week and you just met someone else and now ignore his calls to get back with you and are you in any danger?
Shaking My Head In Disbelief What makes you think anyone can answer this question? Do you think the world's stocked with mind readers? YOU'R…E the one who knows this narcissist abuser, not anyone out here; YOU should be better equipped to predict the reaction, based on past behaviour. Here's an even better question: Why do so many women CHOOSE to get in and then stay (and sometimes return to) relationships with these types of men? Answer The fact is you do know the narcissist any more than we do. If he wasn't abusive verbally (calling you names and demeaning you) or physically abusing you (hitting, pushing, shoving, slapping, punching or doing bodily damage such as split lips, black eyes, missing teeth, etc.) then he should be of no danger to you, but may become a nuisance. It's possible he'll just keep moving on. If he should try to contact you stand your ground and DON'T ANSWER THE PHONE, EMAIL OR IM. Good luck hon Answer Chances are that since you are asking the question you might consider taking steps to protect yourself. Changing locks or even telephone numbers could give you peace of mind, but if he even once acts like a stalker you need allies, like friends and family to just talk and stay up-to-date on what he did and how you responded. They can each offer a new perspective and different suggestions. If you think bodily harm to you is imminent, please consider staying at someones house, seeking a safe house or even seeking a restraining order if there's a clear historical pattern, especially if his abuse has resulted in law officers getting involved. Most important to remember, you are completely entitled to demand your own physical and emotional safety!
How would a narcissist feel at being discarded with no explanation and then ignored from a person he did this to repeatedly?
Answer My narcissist or rather ex-narcissist could not stand it. He called repeatedly. I ignored his calls. He finally showed up at my office and said h…e felt "teary-eyed." Only a narcissist would SAY he felt teary-eyed wherein most men try to hide their tears. I finally agreed to listen to more lies of how he missed me and needed me (even though he has since moved in with another woman). I actually started to believe in him again. For about a day. Then I heard he'd told people he wanted to be advised if my co-worker ever got divorced because he is interested in her. The lies never stop! And they get worse as they get older. Now I'm back to not answering his calls again.
Yes, you should ignore him or anybody who is abusive. The truth is: nobody is perfect and sometimes we need people to teach us a lesson. Ignoring him is the best thing you cou…ld do for him and for YOU. If he really loves you, he will eventually realize he made a mistake but this would only happen if you ignore him long enough, and this means, ignoring his first attempts to contact you, it is hard but at the end it is worth it. Good luck =)
Dont BUY their deceptions. They lure you in with mental "pyrotechnics " if they have brains.. if not, theyre body will do. Recognize trashiness when you see it. Be better t…han that and have some STANDARDS!
It really bothers them. They feel 'forgotten' and for a narcissist to be forgotten is to be insignificant. I was working with a fairly famous musician for a time who was a HUG…E narcissist. I finally gave up on his rude behaviour and ignored him. Two weeks later, he's contacting and sucking up to me, despite that he has thousands of fans. But when they do re-contact you, it's only so they can test you. They're trying to get a reaction out of you to feed their ego. Just keep ignoring them. Silence, and indifference is the best kind of revenge.
Like they dont exist especially if you was a valuable source of NS no attention admiration ect means no one to feed there crippled ego this is what they ultimatley rely …on to establish there feelings of omnipotence superiority ect. Best way to get rid of them is to IGNORE them once they have got what they wanted from you they will leave uncerimonously without warning and your left to pick up the pieaces of a broken heart it is a harrowing experience but they will be back just at the time you are getting your life back on track just to use and abuse you all over again! they just want the best of you stay away for your own good...
Narcissist people are controlling freaks and want to rule other people. They may simply ignore someone to get back at them for not receiving their ritual narcissist supply. I …can't stand narcissists and do not like being around them. They are coning and manipulative people who only view people as objects to be used and then tossed out. Unfortunately, everyone has encountered a narcissist at work and in their family. Narcissists in the family are very difficult to stay away from because as the "old saying" goes, "Blood is thicker than water" That is nonsense because relation or no relation, why should anyone allow someone to disrespect and mistreat them; for the mere fact, that they are their mother, father, brother, sister, etc?. In case no one knew, the hardest knocks come from your own family. Well, at least for me it did. Now, I have moved on and have very limited contact with them. I had a narcissist mother and father and other relatives to deal with for eighteen years of my life. And that was enough for me. I have two children and live in another state far away from them and that is great. Narcissists are not genuine and fake emotions to get what they want. Some may even attempt suicide to spin people back into their web of deceit. And, we, who are normal people often fall for their scams and end up right back into their delusional environment. Not that I advocate suicide, but as for narcissistic people, they surely won't be missed. Anyway, narcissistic people care too much about themselves to commit suicide. If anything, they will drive normal people to do it. I hate narcissists and do not want them around at all, even if they are family because they are the worst to deal with. At least, if they are co-workers or aquaintances, you are not forced to socialize and mingle with them, and could care less if they died tomorrow. Whereas, with family, one feels obligated to put up with nonsense because they are family. Narcissists can go to $%## for all I care! Yes, you heard me; they can go to $%##. They are very problematic and stir up continuous controversy. Have you noticed narcissist tend to be religious and will use religion to get over on people. Look at Jim Jones, who was responsible for hundreds or more peoples' death in the name of religion. Some of the so-called televangelists may Jim Jones their congregation. They have a maniacial way of convincing people to believe and do whatever they tell them to do. Isn't that scary that these narcissists have so much control and power and can bend the rules to benefit them?
I think that most people don't like being ignored - it is not a nice feeling. Narcissists, especially, receive a narc injury if you ignore them. They start to fill up with rag…e and then will ignore back. Also, within a few minutes they can switch and try and get your attention somehow (this is supply for them) and carry on like nothing has happened. THEY ARE WEIRD CREATURES!
There are a couple of reasons why he does it: You did critizise him or said something true about him that he didn't like it,or he has a New Supply and devalues you,or he wants… to hurt you and get your attention...
They will find someway to even the score, and or, find another source of narcissistic supply.
To them people are just OBJECTS... easier to ignore. The majorweakness in the Narcissist is the emotional intelligence. They havenone. When we see someone angry, in order to m…ake sense of it wehave to use emotional intelligence. We have to empathize.Narcissists cant do it. The rage would seem like a meaninglessbabble. There is nothing there for them to understand.
What should you do if the narcissistic ex tries to get in contact after a year of ignoring you and why would he do this?
You can, ignore, tell off, or indulge him the choice is yours. No one can answer why your ex would come back except, your ex.
Because they are completely consumed with their own needs and how to fulfill those needs. Because they are completely consumed with their own needs and how to fulfill those n…eeds. Because they are completely consumed with their own needs and how to fulfill those needs. Because they are completely consumed with their own needs and how to fulfill those needs.
Because they don't care about you. As much as you think they loved you or were into you they really couldn't care less. They don't have the ability to care. They honestly don'…t know how because there is a disconnect and no empathy exists. There's a hole where their heart should be. Picture yourself as a fresh clean paper towel and the narcissist has just cleaned his muddy hands all over you and threw you in the trash. You were just an object. You have served your purpose and are no longer needed. Most likely you are being ignored because they have found a new supply source and all of their time and energy is going to that new person. They are in "love" with the new supply. You have been forgotten (at least for now). Consider yourself lucky to have been dumped.
Yes, he will miss your undivided attention, your love. He will not miss you as person.