You can fuss, moan, gripe and complain about him and to him.. Chances are, it won't do any good. Or you can figure out what problems you have with him and work with him
…to change the issue. Frequently our "problems" with husbands are the result of our being over tired and frustrated with our own daily problems. That same husband who will slay dragons and leap to the moon for you... doesn't remember that the garbage must be taken out on Tuesdays and Fridays before 7am. It's not his fault, he's built to solve problems, not run a household. That one is our job..his is to love us and wonder what makes us happy. Husbands work best on the "kill this, pay that" operational system. They love clear simple directions. Let's face it, we as women over analyze problems. Men don't usually do that..."kill this, pay that"! If you develop a plan to get things done on this principle, you'll be much happier and so will he. Truly, men do not need OR WANT to relate to you in everyday matters on a deeper level. They really don't care that the roach needs to be killed because it spreads germs, they just want to know that you need it killed. So figure out what he needs to do for you...and tell him! He's not a mind reader, even after all these years. On another note... Since the question isn't entirely clear on this point... If your husband is malicious, demanding, hurtful, and/or abusive, seek help immediately. You are a valuable person and these behaviors are not love, they are power tools to control you. Abuse is never love, it is control by force. You deserve a life of love not abuse, so seek help for both of you. Right now, today! (MORE) 
