What do you do if you've been saving money to get married and you found out your mate feels guilty over an incest relationship with his alcoholic mother and he's been paying her large sums of money?
Answer . First off you have to calm down. Tell your boyfriend you need a week of breathing space. I find it odd that you wouldn't be suspicious re his behavior regarding… incest. Usually people who have incest relationships are odd about having sex with a normal mate. \n. \nThese are very serious allegations he is making. Could it be he is afraid to get married and making this all up?\n. \nThere are a couple of things you can do here.\n. \n . 1 You can go and talk to his mother. Be calm! Yelling will get you nowhere. Tell her what her son told you. If it's true you'll soon know, and if not, then you know he's lying to get out of marrying you. Either way, you win!\n . \n . 2 You can take him at his word and walk away. If all this is true (he's not lying to you) then you don't want to start off your marriage with all this garbage tied to his butt. If he lied about it you still don't want to marry him because you'll never take him at his word again. Marriage isn't all roses and it takes honesty, loyalty and a whole lot of work. There are good times and bad, so you sure want to start out on an honest step and some maturity on both your parts to begin a marriage.\n . \nGood luck hon\nMarcy ( Full Answer )