Warning: only do this if someonme isnt truly dangerous and also not to anatagonize a "normal" personal you just dont like.

How to outwit a sociopath: get nasty. We want to refrain from it because normal people dont act out this way, or our sense of decency or compassion holds us back. Its that sense of compassion that sociopaths take advantage of and use us to con us and reel us in again and again. Get tough and get nasty. Youre not going to lose your sense of compassion-we naturally understand limits, they dont. Keep your wits about you and chopper sic balls!

1. Realize its only about a power game of one-upmanship/control with them. Its their only source of power/energy. They have none of their own to generate. Dont allow their sweet talk/lies/false apologies to manipulate you. Dont talk to, explain, or try to understand them (except initially). If you do so, let it only be temporary. Whatever you do, catch the behavior in the beginning-and nip it in the bud. On another note--dont EVER blame yourself, Firstly, the sociopath will do enough of that for you--in order to manipulate and maintain control over you, and secondly, they are master manipulators and usually fool everyone, so its not just you.

2. Intially: go overboard with compassion for about 2 weeks to 6 months and give it your all to resolve conflicts to the best of your ability. Be a paragon of patience. Give them 3 chances or so, after that remove all traces of compassion for them or their behavior. This will clear your conscience letting you know you gave it your best shot to reach out to their humanity. In the meantime, collect a papertrail for future legal battles and acquire witnesses all with a sweet, smiling face plastered on the whole time. Jot down every note, episode and times and dates. Contact a lawyer and relay the notes. Especially if anything that smack of illegal takes place--dont be afraid to use it against them or trump up charges--as long as theyre true of course. There are "free" lawyers for the fianacially challeneged. Be firm, as sociopaths are notorius for crossing boundaries, but "legal" and fair. Not nasty as of yet. Gather allies! Make an emergency exit plan if neccessary to cover money, a place to stay and a vehicle. Be prepared for a restraining order if neccessary.

3. Have big balls when you step to the plate and dont back down-you need as much cunning or more to match them. They will connive, manipulate, con and steal, damage property, humiliate, one-up and insult you and throw tantrums and zero in on your every weakness. And do it for long-term. Let them know they have met their match. Dont let anyone-not even your parents or children get in the way (of course shield them from the conflict, dont badmouth in front of them, but dont let them be an excuse for not excercising military discipline and might). Wear a mask of steel. Be as stony cold as they are if you are to win. When the chips fall in the end, everything will come to light and people eventually will understand. Its only temporary and youre not only doing it for your own good or the good of the family, but its actually for their own good too. Sociopaths need to learn boundaries and limitations and the only way for that to happen is through (many) reprecussions. You are also creating a document of their behavior for any future victims to refer to if they investigate their past or file charges of their own. They will need it as a reference. If you can walk away unscathed, do so. If not, mentally prepare for a long battle and to take it all the way to the end. You have to be bigger and badder them them or at least appear to be so. DO NOT SHOW FEAR or hurt for that matter. Let them know youre no one to be trifled with. Bullies only understand bully. Dont bother trying to talk to or explain or get them to understand. Youve already tried that. That time is past. Become hell wheels. Also, as difficult as it sounds, be sure to take time out to relax and enjoy yourself w/out their influence to maintain peace of mind. Above all else, have the confidence and belief in yourself even if no one else does. You may stand alone--for now. All the more reason--you have to match and outdo the sociopaths overinflated sense of confidence. Let your sense of indignance, truth and integrity be your support. Sociopaths like to turn everyone against you and make you feel like your crazy or somethings wrong with you. They never take responsibility and love to BLAME and concoct stories of blame. They also are masters at manipulating public opinion against you so you must have absolute faith in yourself. Dont forget to gather evidence, lawyers, police reports and allies. Document, document, document. Paer trail, paper trail, paper trail.

4. Secret: Their weakness is they are a) unusually dependent on a specific person or set or persons for extreme need of security (or sense of control).

b) on material comforts of sorts or both. c) their reputation. Go to any means to destroy any of these. Trust me, they would do the same given the chance and will. Luckily this only means revealing the truth to all pertinent peoples, sometimes with a litlle evidence to back you up. Anonymous emails will do fine as well.

Find sabotaging ways to disconnect or expose them or deprive them of their security or material comforts--this is especially annoying to them since they are either overly materialistic or bad at procuring their own basic needs-including money, finances, work, food and sex. Withold, stop, sabotage or withdraw any of these. After all thats what they do to you. Antagonize them-with a blow of 1000 cuts. Even small pleasures and discomforts--have the TV disconnected, blow the fuse box to prevent the cable or TV--whatever they rely on for downtime--throw their favorite sneakers or T-shirts, gather evidence of their behavior and "innocently" deny it or reveal their behavior or information to their victims/security figures (although if its a parental figure, be prepared for them to deny or support their behavior, as every narcissist has an enabler behind him). In other words, fight fire with fire. Again, if you can walk away, do so. But if youre stuck with these a**holes, give it all you got!

5. Never let them see you hurt, your confidence shaken or that they "gotten to you" or one-upped you. If they call you crazy, say "Yeah Im crazy-you dont know how crazy I will take this, and if you dont back off Ill f- you up!" When they initiate a one-upmanship game, dont just one up them back--hit them immediately with the extreme. They wont expect it and unless they are truly crazy, they will retreat and come back later for a covert attack or manipulation. Anticipate this. Guard and protect yourself because if they findout or you reveal that youve been gathering intell or evidence on them, be ceratin they will do the same to you. So cover your a**. They will also try to engage you by opening with or asking questions or quietly gathering info on you--never let them in and never let them have the upper hand.

6. If they have broken any laws, or rules quietly gather evidence and then knock them out by bringing charges, complaints. If the police dont believe you or act like your harassing them or wasting their time--privately take the attitude of screw you a-holes, but in person be professional, insistent and firm. Dont lose it. They are there to do a job--to protect you. Dont let them forget that. Dont let them intimidate you either. I say this because they too are often taken in by the sociopaths lies/nature, especially if they are called repeatedly. Dont be shy though. Call them as many times as you need to. Even if its 10 times a day-thats what theyre there for thats their job, thats what their paid to do. Any witnesses, proof, video, audio or documentation will be of great benefit here. And as far as judges, there are appeals and concrete proof doesnt lie. After a crime is commited-there is always proof left behind. You just have to be swift-witted and have the peace of mind to collect it in a timely fashion. If they are abusive, be sure to get photos. If they rape you, get a rape kit done immediately. Otherwise its lost. Thats why its good to "feign" understanding and tolerance for a few months as needed-(even up to a year if need be) to gather and collect concrete evidence.

7. In addition to collecting evidence, alternate feigned ignorance and outlandish responses to the sociopath to outcrazy him.

8. Antagonize or ride him slowly by threatening him, his security and his image/reputation in small doses to the point were he breaks, then call the police to catch his rampage. Two word for you: restraining order.

9. Any of this sound familiar? Thats probably because this is what a sociopath will likely do to you. Catch him in the act, turn it around on him, and use his own tactics against him. You cannot talk to, reason with, use normal boundaries with sociopaths. They count on normal people doing so and thats how they get in, set up camp and "outwit" you. If you truly want to get rid of these jerks, you have to be firm and consistent--ironically the reason why he probably is a sociopath in the first place is that no one--especially parents growing up--were firm or consistent with boundaries or discipline with him. It was probably due to overindulgence, extreme disconnect and neglect, or a combination or alternation of the two. My first recommendation is get out while the going is good and cut your losses, but sometimes that simply isnt possible and your stuck with the person. If thats the case, commit to crazy.

10. Above all else, keep your distance, either emotionally or physically and do whatever it takes to maintain your peace of mind. Dont let this crazy person drive you crazy even if you have to resort to crazy temporaily to get them out of your life. Get out, take care of your health, get caring friends, a counselor, support, go for a run, get you nails done or your hair, read a book-whatever to unwind. Dont let them get the best of you remember--you have the upper hand. They want it, but you HAVE IT ALREADY. Good luck.

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