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In older records, love divinations cluster around certain days of the year (Halloween, Midsummer, St Agnes's Eve, St Valentine's Day, New Year), and the symbolic power of the particular date is thus added to the potency of the time of day (usually midnight), as well as the prescribed ingredients and actions.
At the simplest end of the spectrum are the cherry-stones, buttons, petals on a daisy, and so on, chanting ‘He loves me, loves me not …’, or the ubiquitous ‘Tinker, tailor, soldier, sailor …’. The first recorded version of this type of procedure only dates from the 1820s, but it is commonly reported from then on.
A little more complex are those which use everyday objects:
To meet your future wife or husband count seven stars in the sky on seven successive nights, and on the eighth day the first person with whom you shake hands will be your wife or husband. (Addy,1895: 76)
To find out whether your husband will have light or dark hair, take a table-knife with a white haft and spin it round on a table. If it stops with the blade towards you your husband will be a dark-haired man; if with the haft, he will be a light-haired man. (Addy, 1895: 82)
More complicated:
If a girl wishes to dream of her future husband let her go upstairs backwards on a Tuesday or a Friday night with a garter in her hands, saying these words as she ties it:
I tie my garter in two knots(Addy, 1895: 78)
That I my beloved may see
Not in his best apparel
But in the clothes he wears every day
The following charm is practised on Midsummer Day—A bucket of spring-water is set in the middle of a yard at midnight. If a girl looks therein at the hour of twelve she will see the face of the young man whom she is to marry. If she does not see it she will die an old maid. (Addy, 1895: 78)
If you eat an apple at midnight on All Halloween, and, without looking behind you, gaze into a mirror, you will see the face of your future husband or wife. (Addy, 1895: 84)
Those designed to conjure the man's wraith or spirit are understandably more complicated still:
The following charm is to be practised at midnight on St Anne's Eve (July 26). A stool is set in the middle of a room and a bowl of water put thereon. A string or piece of rope is then hung across the room. Seven unmarried girls, who must not speak till the ceremony is over, come in, and each hangs a smock on the line. Then each of the girls in turn drops a bayleaf into the bowl of water, and sits down immediately opposite to the smock which she has hung up. Soon afterwards a young man will enter the room, take a bay-leaf from the bowl, and sprinkle the smock of the girl whom he intends to marry. He will marry her that year. (Addy, 1895: 78)
On All-Halloween or New Year's Eve a Border maiden may wash her sark, and hang it over a chair to dry, taking care to tell no one what she is about. If she lie awake long enough, she will see the form of her future spouse enter the room and turn the sark. We are told of one young girl who, after fulfilling this rite, looked out of bed and saw a coffin behind the sark; it remained visible for some time and then disappeared. The girl rose up in agony and told her family what had occurred, and the next morning she heard of her lover's death. (Henderson, 1866: 79)
Alternatively, the procedure could be designed to compel the man in real life. These are often told in narrative form, as they had happened to someone, and invariably with an unhappy ending as a warning:
In another instance related in East Yorkshire the girl took a live frog, stuck it all over with pins, put it in a box, kept it shut up for a week, after which she looked in and found that the frog was dead. She kept it until it was consumed away to bones. Then she took out of the frog a small key-shaped bone, got into the company of the young man she wanted, fastened the bone to his coat, and said:
I do not want to hurt this frog
But my true lover's heart to turn
Wishing that he no rest may find
Till he come to me and speak his mind.
After this he had a week's torture, as the frog had, and then he went to her and said he had had a queer sensation for a week, but he didn't know what it meant. ‘However’, he said, ‘I will marry thee, but I know we shall never be happy’. They were married and lived very uncomfortably together’. (Addy, 1895: 79)
(Compare this frog-bone procedure with that listed under horseman's word).
Worst of all, the divinatory actions of the girl might cause rather than predict a real-life tragedy. Henderson (1866: 79-81) gives an example from the Scottish borders which describes a complex procedure involving holly leaves and three pails of water, designed to summon up the future husband. In one reported case, however, the lover who had thus been summoned ‘let fall a rope with a noose at the end, which the young woman took up the next morning and laid in her press’. They were soon married, but within a fortnight the husband hung himself with the rope she had hidden away. Henderson gives one or two similar tales from European sources.
Weddings are an obvious time for love divination, but the ones that cluster around this event have less of the complicated rigmarole and few of the frightening elements. The simplest is the throwing of the bouquet or stocking, or putting a piece of wedding cake under your pillow to dream of your future spouse, but several demand the use of a wedding ring (Addy, 1895: 78).
Amidst the wide variety of items used and actions prescribed, recurrent motifs can be discerned. Doing things backwards, staying silent, washing things, placing items under the pillow, the rhyme commencing ‘It is not this —— I mean to hurt’, or the promise that ‘The first person you meet …’, are all regular ingredients, as are pails of water, pins, apples and apple pips, seeds and leaves of various sorts, and, common enough to warrant their own entries, dumb cake, and dragon's blood. In sum, most of the recipes combine everyday objects in unusual ways or places. Those which are not designed to conjure the form of the man, usually result in symbols which need to be interpreted—shapes of molten lead (or tea leaves) to denote a trade, a letter of the alphabet to indicate his name, and so on.
Young women have certainly not stopped wanting to learn about their future love-life, but the complex and frightening procedures detailed above are no longer reported, although some may be practised in private. What does exist is a series of formulas by which schoolgirls use numbers and letters of the alphabet to compare boys’ and girls’ names to calculate their chances with each other, and diagrams on which answers to questions are plotted and their future revealed, and these are regularly printed in girls’ magazines, as well as being passed on informally at schools (see Folklore Society Children's Folklore Newsletter 2 (1988), 17; 3 (1989), 10-12; 4 (1990), 20-2). Younger girls also have a range of skipping rhymes which appear to be divinatory. It is difficult for the outsider to know where the line between game and seriousness lies in these matters, but it is ever the privilege of the young both to believe and not believe at the same time.
Bibliography
The full bibliography list is available here.
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- Roud, 2003: 283-94
