At some juncture or another, you face the possibilities of a relationship proposal that is beyond the usual ramifications of romance for a college student. Encountering someone or carrying over a high school steady into college does not spell immediate failure. Take a chance and cultivate a long distance relationship (LDR) into a never-ending love story.

Be Honest with Yourself

The best way to know if a long distance relationship is good for you is to evaluate how good you are at relationships period. How are your communication skills? How are your sensitivity levels? Do you have commitment issues or a phobia? Any negative answers to either of these questions will require you to think seriously about maintaining a long distance relationship while in college. The most important skills you will need in this kind of relationship are communication. Since you will not see the person as often as you would if you lived locally (depending on how far away you are seeing that 30 miles away is not that serious and can be traveled in less than an hour) you are going to use your verbal and written abilities more frequently. You will not have the luxury of just watching TV together or taking a walk in the park as quality time any longer. More time on the phone, text, or Skype makes up for that time lost until you see each other again.

Become a Free Thinker

When you decide to go ahead with a long distance arrangement, forget everything you have ever been told about how good relationships work. These norms are not applicable here and relying on them as you plot your way through this murky territory will sour your connection with your significant other early on leading to sure sabotage. No relationship can last when constantly compared to a standard and in situations where you are not around your other half for the majority of the time; it is easier to call it quits when you view everything as a reason to do so. Ignore the advice of anyone who has not done it before, as they cannot understand what you are going through until they get into an LDR of their own. Forget about statistics on cheating and growing apart because these things will only bring you down. Focus on better news about having a companion that just so happens to live in the next state. You will start to recognize these kinds of things are not unique and are far from strange.

Shorten the Miles between You

Get into your mate. Avoid stagnation and dwelling on the past when you used to be in the same locale. Look toward the future, together. Discuss what you want out of a life with them. Fall back on your communication chops and actually sit down and gather their opinions about the world and their place in it. Discover their goals and values as a person. Use current events or topics from class or a group discussion with friends. You will be surprised at the many things you can talk about with someone you have not seen in a few weeks. One conversation leads to another as you learn whom you are actually dealing with.

Those in the know understand that getting to know the person instead of just being around the person is the optimal way to love someone. College out of town is no excuse for ditching a romance that you had before stepping on the yard. In any case, what works for you is what you want to work for you. A long distance relationship will not last if you do not want it to. There are just no two ways about it.

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