Tie and tease

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Forced Orgasm.

Tie and tease refers to the BDSM practice of tying up a partner for sexual pleasure and either allowing or denying him or her an orgasm, that might or might not be decided in advance (see also erotic sexual denial and orgasm control).^[1]

The teasee is tied down and then repeatedly stimulated to the pre-climax stage but without allowing an orgasm to occur, or maybe allowing an orgasm at the end of the experience.^[2] Depending on the choices of the people involved, the tied-up partner may be allowed an orgasm after a while, or the experience might end in frustration, without any orgasm at all—that is sometimes called "tease and denial". Any form of tying or bondage may be used, but it is classically practised with a spreadeagle tie to a four poster bed. This is often the first area couples explore after experimenting with bondage since it combines pleasure with some form of power play. It may or may not be an entrée to more painful play such as pinching and ice cubes. Interestingly, negotiation in BDSM usually focuses on what will or won't be done and not on the emotion. Tie and tease is inherently a psychological activity as well as a physical one.

Often, the bound person will be gagged so as to increase their sense of helplessness. They may also be blindfolded for the same reason, or not blindfolded so that they can see their teaser being provocative by for example dressing in lingerie or having sex with a third person. There may be an intimate examination.

Safety

Priapism, or prolonged erection, lasting several hours, can be damaging to the penis. Extended tie and tease activities may be affected by this.

See also

• Blue balls

Notes

1. ^ The New Partridge Dictionary of Slang and Unconventional English By Eric Partridge, Tom Dalzell, Terry Victor, Published by Taylor & Francis, 2006, page 1964.
2. ^ Sexplosion By Ramona Bailey, Published by Xulon Press, 2003, p249.

References

• This article incorporates text from the article on Tie and tease in Wipipedia, the free-content Fetish and BDSM encyclopedia.