Transference is positive and essential in therapy. The existence
of a positive transference from early childhood to the therapist
(or other figures) is the glue which allows the relationship to
develop. Without transference there can not be first willingness to
trust and this is an essential element.
The existence of negative transference and the problems of how
deeply one can be distorted by past experiences is the work of
therapy.
To be able to see and experience life realistically is the goal
of good therapy.
Understanding what is distorted and unrealistic in the current
transference is the work of therapy.