Can I live with my father?
Minors are not allowed to choose with whom they wish to live.
That is a decision made by the court if the parents cannot reach an equitable solution as to who shall retain primary custody of the child/children.
A judge may speak with a child who is mature enough to understand the matter and consider the child's personal interest, such as schooling, friends, etc., issues that will not be discussed with the minor child are which parent the child cares for more, disciplinary tactics of either parent, and so forth.
The final decision of custody is based on what the judge believes to be in the best interest of the child/children and not on the preferences of any of the involved parties.
How old do you have to be to decide if you live with your mother or father and how do you go about changing where you live?
If your father and mother are divorced, and if they cannot agree where you will live, the court decides where you will live. When you are eighteen years old, you may decide where you will live, unless you can convince a judge to declare you to be an emancipated minor before your eighteenth birthday. If you are declared an emancipated minor, you may decide where you will live, on your own as an adult.