Can a narcissist complement someone to others?
With genuine attachment to the words they are saying? No. But a narcissist can 'complement' someone they think of as 'special' or 'high status', (I.e., someone who is 'special' and 'unique' enough to understand 'special' and 'unique' them.) And a narcissist is capable of 'love-bombing' someone who is affiliated with someone who has 'crossed them' in some way such as causing narcissistic injury by pointing out reality to them in an effort to get the third party on their 'side.' Finally, narcissistic parents with multiple children typically have at least one 'golden child,' I.e., the child who they define as 'fine' because they meet the parent's emotional needs without question and without showing any needs of their own...The parent will sometimes lavish praise insincere praise on their 'golden child' to send a message to their other children and that message is this: 'See, I AM capable of being loving, just not to YOU.' Narcissistic parents also sometimes praise their children in public/around an audience. So yes, narcissists can show the behavior of complimenting someone else, but no, none of it is sincere...Like all of their actions it is a manipulation designed to ellicit a response in others, secure a resource for themselves, etc.
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There are no statistics available. Very few narcissists are diagnosed as such because they often avoid therapy and detection altogether. . Wow...in my situation, she married… someone that is obvious N supply for her. He caters to her and treats her like a queen and once she looked at him and at me and said "Laura thinks I'm spoiled...do YOU think I'm spoiled?" The look I got from her was playful at first, but then one of "HA HA" and she finally said "she's just jealous cause her husband doesn't do this for her!"
A lot of people tend to project their faults on to others. I doubt if it's common for people to project the actual term "narcissism" outside of areas where it has become a com…mon term of reference such as support communities. However, within those areas, I have observed a significant number of what would appear to be blatantly obvious NPD sufferers who have discovered NPD for the first time, and immediately decided to attribute it to their primary victims, rather than themselves. (If you are reading this and think I mean you, then I probably don't!) Narcissists project their own disorder onto others. They "label" others with their own problems. The reverse process happens to victims. Some people adopt the role of a professional victim. In doing so, they become self-centered, devoid of empathy and, abusive and exploitative. In other words, they become narcissists. The role of "professional victims" - ones whose existence and very identity is defined solely and entirely by their victimhood - is well researched in victimology. It doesn't make for a nice reading. These victim "pros" are often more cruel, vengeful, vitriolic, lacking in compassion and violent than their abusers. They make a career of it. They identify with this role to the exclusion of all else. It is a danger to be avoided. And this is precisely what I called "Narcissistic Contagion" or "Narcissism by Proxy". These affected entertain the (false) belief they can compartmentalize their narcissistic behaviour and direct it only at the narcissist. In other words, they trust in their ability to segregate their behaviour patterns: verbally abusive towards the narcissist - civil with others, act with malice where the narcissist is concerned - and with Christian charity towards all others. They cling to the "faucet theory". They believe that they can turn on and off their negative feelings, their abusive outbursts, their vindictiveness and vengefulness, their blind rage, their non-discriminating judgment. This, of course, is untrue. These behaviours spill over, into daily transactions with innocent others. One cannot be partly or temporarily vindictive and judgmental any more than one can be partly or temporarily pregnant. To their horror, these victims discover that they have been transmuted and transformed into their worst nightmare: into a narcissist. Narcissism is contagious and that many victims tend to become narcissists themselves: malevolent, vicious, lacking empathy, egotistical, exploitative, violent and abusive. No, they avoid the word, pretend it doesn't exist. They don't like their victims being educated and try to change the subject. They will laugh and tell you, "oh you think everyone is a narcissist." I might have to agree on that one. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder feels that their way of thinking (the grandiosity, the abuse) is the "right" one. They actually think that they are normal, and that other people are either hypocrites or crazy. As such, they think that the entire psychology community is wrong about "denigrating" narcissism. On the other hand, they can also use NPD as an ammunition to attack others, but only when they haven't discovered that they themselves have NPD. If they have discovered their own NPD, then lo and behold, they recreate a new world where NPD is a "holy" characteristic.
\n. \n Answer \n. \nnarcissism is a pattern of traits and behaviors which signify infatuation and obsession with one's self to the exclusion of all others and the egoti…stic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition.It is commonly attributed to childhood abuse and trauma inflicted by parents, authority figures, or even peers. \n. \nThe prognosis for an adult narcissist is poor, though his adaptation to life and to others can improve with treatment. Medication is applied to side-effects and behaviors (such as mood or affect disorders and obsession-compulsion) - usually with some success. \n. \nNarcissism is characterized by\nAn all-pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration or adulation and lack of empathy, usually beginning by early adulthood and present in various contexts. \n. \nFeels grandiose and self-important (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents to the point of lying, demands to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)\n. \nIs obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily beauty or sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal, everlasting, all-conquering love or passion\n. \nFirmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special, can only be understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other special or unique, or high-status people (or institutions)\n. \nRequires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation - or, failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (narcissistic supply)\n. \nFeels entitled. Expects unreasonable or special and favorable priority treatment. Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her expectations\n. \nIs "interpersonally exploitative", i.e., uses others to achieve his or her own ends\n. \nDevoid of empathy. Is unable or unwilling to identify with or acknowledge the feelings and needs of others\n. \nConstantly envious of others or believes that they feel the same about him or her\n. \nArrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes coupled with rage when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted\n Answer \nIs a narcissist capable of love? Interesting question. I suppose we might agree that everything they are and everything they do stems from a place within them that is flawed and distorted. Their whole existence is colored by the disorder.Love? Well, to a narcissist it likely means something totally different than it would to a non N. Perhaps love to them equates with possession and control of their "loved one", as an example. Perhaps to them the love is "real". We as non N's cannot relate. To use an analogy, how would you describe the concept of love to an alien from another planet? How might they explain their concept (if they even have one) to us? Impossible. Incomprehensible.Think of the N as the alien. You get the idea.
A narcissistic person is someone who prioritizes himself above anyone or anything else. Of course, a good amount of self-love is vital for one's self-confidence and survival b…ut a narcissistic invidual just goes beyond the borders - where he or she becomes inconsiderate for others in order to prioritize themselves and their whims.
I do not believe that anyone knows the answer to this question. It is probably a combination of Nature and Nurture that causes narcissism. I don't believe there any "instances…" which one could point and say "that caused so and so to be a narcissist.". Unfortunately, without a known cause, chances are there are no known cures. If you are involved with a narcissist, you only can decide for yourself if you wish to remain involved. The narcissist WILL NOT change and is UNABLE to change. Also, keep in mind that naricssists are advanced, talented manipulators. Tread carefully and protect your emotions when dealing with a narcissist. You will end up with hurt feelings, there is no way around that.. In some sense, the narcissist gets a pass. Not necessarily from their negative behavior of course, but a pass none-the-less, because "technically" it isn't their fault they have narcissistic tendencies. Most people can control how they treat others however; the narcissist will repeatedly treat people poorly because the people in their lives allow the mistreatment to continue.. In other words, the only way to not be subjected to abuse from a narcissist is to totally and absolutely cut all ties with the narcissist.
I am assuming you are referring to 1. a malignant narcissist and 2. close as meaning intimate. My initial response is simply no. Narcissist do not see others as "people" but v…iew others more like "things". This is evident in how they respond to others. Narcissists lack empathy and altruism within their personality. Empathy and altruism would be vital ingredients to a healthy and close relationship. In general N's treat other people like things. Things are used, manipulated, and discarded. We dont consider "Things" to have feelings. They are just objects. Therefore we dont consider our relationship to "things" as intimate. When people do attempt to replace intimate relationships with humans to attempting to have an "intimate" relationship with a thing or action we often refer to this as addictive behavior i.e. alcoholism etc.... Generally N's are incapable of intimate, close personal relationships.
Haha...trust me he is not normal. He is a true con man and the master of manipulation. I just ignored all the red flags but it's all making sense now. urm ,not sure... Nar…cissists are supposedly very selfcentred and deceitful , kind of grandiose, your description sounds more like a 'normal' boy ...we all act 'crazy'at times ... all the best He is not in contact with me now but I he is trying to get my attention in bizarre ways but I ignore him. He did not cheat. He was for the most part a good boyfriend...but he did have his moments where I thought he was nuts. He changed on me as soon as I broke it off with him. I took him back and 2 weeks later, we were done for good. I guess he felt slighted and wanted to get back at me. He is now with a extremely unattractive, overweight woman whom he is embarassed for anybody to know he is dating her. and is he still in contact with you now ? iam not an expert but i'd say given your comment he is a N ... he didnt love you but himself ,so he would have told you anything to get what he wants and i assume he ll do the same with the next girl ...his sex drive has probably nothing to do with you personally as much as you are looking for some indication of love from him ...did he cheat ? if so there is your answer and if he blamed you for cheating , its proof again that he didnt love you it sounds like you are trying to find reasons for his behaviour based on what you know but this would be like trying to translate a book written in a foreign, to you unknown, language... apart from all this you are special and someone will be 'addicted'to you in a normal way ....and never give anyone access to pictures,that you don't want to see in public ,you never know where they end up ... I ask this answer because I had a N bf who wanted to have sex like 10 times a day. He was always up and ready to go anywhere at anytime. He used to take tons of pics of me and had like 500 of them on his phone.He CLAIMED he was never like that before and that I unleashed the beast but of course now, I don't know what was true or not. i don't think so .... its easy for them to get what they want by going back to the same person instead of approaching someone else but in reality they take what they can get to boost their ego ....so they will not just have one sexual partner anyway ...has nothing to do with addiction rather opportunity i believe From TaxManDevil65 I believe that a narcissistic person is ADDICTED to anything or any one that feeds their desire to be BEAUTIFIED, GLORIFIED OR OTHERWISE LOOKED UP TO. Narcissistic women for instance use "perversion" to create this illusion of being the lover's greatest sexual find. IE: Look at me, I will fulfill all your desires and more. You will never find a lover as great as "ME" because "I WILL DO ANYTHING" for your love.....even if the average woman would be/feel degraded by them. Narssistic men on the other hand tend to feed off of the NUMBER of women who believe HE is the greatest lover of all. I do believe that sexual addiction and sexual perversion are a part of the narcissistics personality. IT FEEDS IT!
Check here: http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/ They do not need all the traits. Just a couple will do it.
No They only have better relationships with themselves..... new answer: if 2 people have different forms of (pathological)narcissism they can have a relatively successful rela…tionship buttwo cerebral narcissists, for example, would be fighting in notime.
No, but you can become very good at looking after your own interests, since they certainly won't.
Generally, no. Narcissistic behavior is draw to others that will listen - not talk about themselves as well. There are always exceptions if there is attraction that overwhelms… a mental disorder.
Narcissism & Sociopathy are on the same spectrum ALL Sociopaths are also Narcissists NOT all Narcissists are Sociopaths, though. The spectrum only runs one way.
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okay i hope your a girl and if your a guy you should never say that. a guy should never say to another man anything about his balls unless its a freindly insult. if your a g…irl don't compliment the balls compliment the penis because that's mostly what guys think about and are very self conscience about.
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A Narcissist NEVER makes any mistakes. It is always the fault of another person is done TO him not BY HIM so that he will look to be at fault.
A narcissist, by definition, is someone with excessive self-love. It's not so much that they pretend to be someone they're not, but more often it is that they cannot control t…he high regard in which they place themselves. They see themselves as a level higher than the rest, and when someone does not meet criteria they see in themselves, they often become haughty and that "someone they're not" that you are talking about.