Please edit your question and give a little more information. I cannot understand it well enough to give a credible answer.
As long as your daughter is under 18 or 22 in som cases you can be held liable for any of her actions
No, it shouldn't be true.
The owner of the vehicle is usually held liable.
You could be held liable for the accident since you were driving intoxicated.
Yes, I may be held liable for my actions
you can be held liable if you do not report it before the crime takes place however a investigation will take place before you are charged and if you are innocent you wont be held liable.
Who else do you think should be held liable?
Yes, they can be held liable for theft. It is a breach of fiduciary duty and is a crime.
can the executor be liable for estate tax
Yes, they could be held liable, but only if the negligence is contributable to a loss
More than likely, yes. The car was the responsibility of the person driving it at the time of damage, regardless of the circumstances. You are NOT liable for any part of the damage (including deductible) as long as you are driving with your friend's permission. No, you are not responsible for the damage.
More than likely you both can be held liable. Since you both were aware the car was uninsured. Depending on the laws of your state you may end up with fines and penalties also. It also depends whether your son was driving the car with your permission and whether your son is a minor. (Yeses make you more liable, noes less so.)