Can you file any kind of lawsuit against your husband's lover for ruining the marriage?

No. The law presumes that adults married or not enter into relationships of their own free will and that being the case they are solely responsible for the consequences. Some states still have laws that pertain to the recovery of damages incurred due to infidelity, however in the present US society those laws are no longer enforceable. The unfaithful spouse made the choice to commit adultery that is a matter of morals not a legal one that being the case damage to the relationship is the fault of the unfaithful spouse not the other party.